To not want MIL to send us a card from my bump?

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I am pregnant with out first DC due in February. Yesterday we received a Christmas card from MIL saying 'From the bump.... To mummy and daddy, from ?'

I haven't seen MIL since June when I was going to hospital as I was bleeding - I was pregnant with twins but unfortunately we lost one. I have struggled to deal with this as well as having hyperemesis and I have only just returned to work. MIL knows all this but she has not attempted to speak to me at all - she hasn't even acknowledged that I'm pregnant. We have a strained relationship because she has made it clear that she doesn't think I'm good enough for her son and told him repeatedly before our wedding not to marry me. She kicked off on the day.

So, am I unreasonable for thinking that considering she hasn't even said 'congratulations' or 'how are you' to me that it's a bit strange she would send us a card off our baby?

She lives 2 minutes down the road btw, so could easily have stopped by at any point or even just picked up the phone.

Emma thanks
Your right it does hurt
I lost my first twin almost two years to the day 17th of dec it was 2011
The very next day my fil strolled into our house and breezily said oh watch strictly last night did you?
Said nothing about the fact we had just lost a baby, and that baby was still in my womb :(
It's not good to be bitter but I Will NEVER forget how shit they have been esp with all the other awful things that have happened since

Although on a cheerier note, I have grown a lot closer to my own family since going through the mill

Yuck! Poor you, bin the card and forget about it if you can.
Hope the rest of your pregnancy goes smoothly.

Such a strange thing to do even without the back story. Chuck it in the bin and ignore it.

So she has rejected your olive branches over the years but now it seems like she is in danger of being excluded from her GCs life, she thinks she can do this (very weird) thing and you'll be ok with it?

Put it in the bin and ignore. She's had her chance and she has blown it, her tough shit.

Sorry for your loss

That sounds really sinister, like she wants to set your bump up as some kind of stalker.

I like the idea of sending one back from her arse.
It is utterly cringemaking but I am sure she means well and is just a mad old bat!

Christmas card from her tea pot!!! Pah ha ha DH didn't realise how strange it was until I asked if we'd get a 'Congratulations on the birth of your baby' card from his bollocks or something?

crapbag yep that's exactly right. I didn't see her last Christmas as we weren't speaking due to her disgusting behaviour at our wedding. A few days after Christmas she had a heart attack so I went with DH to the hospital and sat there with him all day. After she had an op I went in to see her and told her I'm glad she's ok and hoped she felt better soon. That was a big deal for me as she had treated me like shit but I felt I had to make the effort for her sons sake. Same she can't do the same. It's always been me making the effort.

I don't know if it's my age,I am 15 years younger than DH maybe she feels she can wrap me around her finger as I am early 20's?

She has emotionally blackmailed all of her family for years, she is bloody hard work. I am starting to dread the baby being born as I know it will all kick off and I don't want her near my baby boy then DH's family will go mental and poor DH will get it in the neck.