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to think this work colleague is jealous I no longer fancy him?

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PurpleValentine · 02/12/2013 22:43

So around 3 months ago I noticed a guy at work (I'd worked there about 4 months before and think we might have started around the same time.)

He was friendly with a guy on my team and he asked him if he was single, he said he was but only recently so wasn't interested in anyone. I started to chat to him and we'd email at work because I thought he was nice, good guy and we could at least be friends. The contact dwindled and I heard he got back with his girlfriend. Wasn't bothered, very much a case of wasn't meant to be and just a crush.

I hadn't messaged him in around 2 months and we haven't spoken either (not in a childish way just in a not making the effort way).

A new guy at work started and he asked me for my number and we started chatting, when he brought up the fact that he'd heard I like X (said in a jokey way). I said I thought he was nice but definitely no longer interested. I asked who told him and it turns out new guy had asked him who I was and X said - That's Valentine, she has a thing for me Hmm

After 2 months of no contact wouldn't you assume that the person no longer liked you in that way and saying that could have potentially put new guy off from talking to me.

Now I don't think X fancies me but aibu to think he might be jealous because he no longer gets attention from me?

(Sorry if that last line comes across as superior, I am no beauty queen but I think most people enjoy having abit of attention and knowing someone likes them)

OP posts:
thebody · 02/12/2013 22:47

you get that light off right now young lady! it's a school night.Grin

sorry op but you u do sound like my 13 year old dd.

look enjoy the attention and go out with the one you like the best. Grin

YourMaNoBraBackOfMyCar · 02/12/2013 22:48

YANBU. But the day I heard the bloke who used to ask me out all the time (and I would politely turn down) was expecting a baby with his girlfriend I felt a stab of jealousy. It was very strange considering I'm married and have 3 kids. Still no idea why I fleetingly felt jealous.

SantanaLopez · 02/12/2013 22:48

Sorry, I can't stop laughing at thebody, but that is wise advice indeed!

BrianTheMole · 02/12/2013 22:52

you get that light off right now young lady! it's a school night.

Grin Grin Grin

Yes you're probably right op. Sounds as though he's staking his claim, even though he went back to his girlfriend. Now off to bed with you Grin

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