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Original poster

To think friends should help friends?

24 replies

Mummytotwox · 02/12/2013 08:20

My dd has a best friend. We have her round for tea a lot, and take her McDonald's or anywhere. They've been BFF since preschool. Dd goes her house but normally doesn't gets fed, as dd doesn't eat all her tea.

Anyway last night/this morning ds and me have been throwing our guts up, super poorly. So I texted bffs mum to see if she would mind popping DD school with BFF. She said she her husband will with BFF as long as there not running late. So I won't know until 5 mins before dd has to be in school.

I don't have anyone to pick her up either. I feel soooo poorly :.( and ds (who normally wakes at 6) is still asleep :(

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Tabliope · 02/12/2013 08:22

That is crap. Yes, I think they should help. What good is it to you knowing 5 minutes before they go in? Anyone else you can ask?

WooWooOwl · 02/12/2013 08:22

But they are going to do their best to help you, they're just not going to take your child to school at the expense of their own being late. That's reasonable.

Sirzy · 02/12/2013 08:23

how old is your DD?

Does it involve the other family going out of their way? can you just watch for them passing and her walk with them or do they need to change routes? As frustrating as it is - and a clear yes or no would be better really - mornings are a rush for a lot of families so adding a last minute change in can be hard.

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Mummytotwox · 02/12/2013 08:24

They have to go past my house anyway. She's 5.

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claraschu · 02/12/2013 08:24

Of course they should help.

Panzee · 02/12/2013 08:25

Poor you, sounds awful. But she's probably infected anyway, keep her at home?

ParsleyTheLioness · 02/12/2013 08:26

Just as a side issue, you might want to remove child's name from your post OP...

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Mummytotwox · 02/12/2013 08:29

How do I change it?!

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BitOutOfPractice · 02/12/2013 08:31

Oh you poor things. Sounds like you've had a grim night

Yes I agree. They should help you and yanbu to be pissed off

I hope you and your ds feel better soon

ParsleyTheLioness · 02/12/2013 08:44

Click the report button on your post, next to your username, then use the form to tell mumsnet about it

gamerchick · 02/12/2013 09:38

I personally wouldn't have sent her in. If you and your bairn are ill then it's likely she's Infected as well. Would you be able to pick her up if she was ill at school?

I hope you're all on the mend soon.

emsyj · 02/12/2013 09:40

YANBU but people are basically selfish IMO. The ones who will do you a favour are rare - treasure them. Don't do stuff for others unless you are happy to do it regardless of whether they eventually reciprocate - because IME probably 70% of people never will.

Hope you feel better soon.

ElbowPrincess · 02/12/2013 09:45

Wouldnt it be better for her to be at home, she may be full o fthe bugs herself!

freshsweetberry · 02/12/2013 09:48

Oh dear I'm really sorry! Can you open up a conversation where you say I would have loved some help today, can we arrange to help each other on the days where one is sick>? If you phrase it nicely enough I'm sure she will see the error of her ways Grin

RedHelenB · 02/12/2013 09:50

You can't keep a child off school when they're not poorly!

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Mummytotwox · 02/12/2013 10:16

Wish I hadn't sent her, as i have no one to pick her up for me now! :(

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sandfrog · 02/12/2013 12:13

YANBU. They should say yes, and then make sure they don't run late.

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Mummytotwox · 02/12/2013 12:37

It's times like this it shows that I have no friends.

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comemulledwinewithmoi · 02/12/2013 12:42

Tbh I wouldn't ask someone to do this as would not want to risk them getting the lurgy. Keep her off.

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Mummytotwox · 02/12/2013 12:43

Ha. But me dragging myself and my poorly son down to the school to pick her up, isn't a bigger risk? Hmm

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Original poster
Mummytotwox · 02/12/2013 13:08

I'm going to pick dd up early

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comemulledwinewithmoi · 02/12/2013 13:09

If that was to me, I suggested keep her at home.

comemulledwinewithmoi · 02/12/2013 13:11

I would not and have not asked anyone to take my children to school when we have had d and v. It's not fair. I suggested keeping dd off as you sound too ill to take her and she is likely to have it now too. I know you are I'll but really no need for the Hmm

comemulledwinewithmoi · 02/12/2013 13:12

Oh and I help my friends all the time. But I would not take a child who's family have d and v, keep your germs to yourselves.

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