AIBU to make him do it himself?

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Ds is 12. I am sick and tired of giving him a neat pile of nicely folded clothes only to find them the next day dumped in the bottom of his wardrobe or somewhere other than put away in his drawers.

I have told him that from today he is going to iron his own shirts and wash and fold his own washing until he learns to appreciate how irritating it is when he doesn't put his stuff away.

OH thinks I am being too hard on him (OH's mum did everything for him until he left home aged 25) but I think he is old enough to start using the washing machine and iron - not all the time but enough to know that there is no "clean clothes fairy"

YANBU!

His future partner will bless you.

YANBU!!!!!!!

My lot are responsible for their school clothes being clean and they've been doing this since they started secondary school.

YANBU!!

This is from someone who doesn't iron anything until it is going to be worn though, so I may be wrong!

I married a man whos mum had done everything for him, having done everything for her brothers while growing up. I was relieved when he left me for the troll

We do our sons future relationships no favours if we baby them too much!

Thinks of the DIL in the future and how grateful she will be that you have allowed a fully funcioning useful member of sociaety out in the world!

YANBU - so long as you teach him how to do the ironing first so he can't pretend he doesn't know how to do it properly.

YANBU in the slightest.

I was dealing with my own laundry at that age.

Oh, and if your OH thinks this is unfair, maybe he would like to iron them for him!

Oh YAsoNBU

Ive told my 8 year old the same this week for the same reason. He wasnt bringing his washing down, he was leaving his school jumper in the bottom of his school bag everyday so it was being found the next morning unwashed and in a crumpled heap and the stuff he was supposed to out away he was shoving under his bed! So i told him this week he is doing his own from now on. I dont think its too young.

MammaTJ that was exactly what I said to OH! Funnily enough he wasn't keen.

Ya sooooo nbu! It's rather genius actually.

Whilst I haven't taught my 8 year old to iron yet, he sorts his own uniform out on a Friday, puts it in the washer and then takes it out.

Never too young to do simple jobs like that.

He already knows that come senior school he will be ironing it too.

My DCs can put a load of washing on, put it out to dry, and fold it up. However, DS (nearly 10) does have the irritating habit of just dumping the clean stuff into his drawers.

I am determined that both of them will know how to do basic household and personal tasks, and am building up the chores they do.

DD, aged 13, is being taught to iron clothes, although I do tend to hang stuff up and only iron when I need said item. I don't mind if the DCs follow that pattern as long as they understand that they should care for their own stuff.

YABVVVVVVR!

The women crazy blinded by love enough to marry my brothers will find themselves married to men who have never so much as used a kettle, never mind an iron...nothing good ever results from it.

With that said, if your OH is that determined that you're being harsh, he should take over laundry duty.

YANBU - as long as you don't require him to actually put it away in drawers etc. part of being responsible is choosing how you do it. You're not responsible if you're just dictated what and how you do.

But no of course he's not too young, could've been younger, your DH's DM was U to not teach him, well done for not following her footsteps.

YANBU but don't think of it as a punishment - it's a natural part of you teaching him how to take responsibility for himself now he's growing up.

My DP had never had to do anything at all at home, and she's more than capable in everything - mind you she had left home many many years before - maybe it would've been different had I met her when she was 16.

YANBU. DH did his own laundry and ironing from year seven and I am eternally grateful to MIL. In fact, he is as equal as I am.in terms of housework, childcare etc and it starts from a young age.

DD1 is 6.5 and I am sick of the mess she leaves in her drawers as she rakes through the clothes. Yesterday she got DD2 a top, today I opened the drawer, to find DD1 had left her usual mess there as well.

YANBU!! I made the same rule for DSS when he was 14. He developed a habit of chucking the ironed laundry on the floor so he could lounge on the bed, and then bringing it to me a couple of days later and asking me to re-iron it!! I refused, and DH thought that i was U.

Needless to say, DH does DSS ironing now :D

My dd is 11 and she will bung her clothes in the washer, hang me out to dry and iron them. I don't make her do them all the time but she's done it this week.

I don't do it for punishment, just believe that is a life skill she needs to know and and appreciate some of the work that goes into running a household. I guess that seems normal to me as it's how I was raised. Added to that my hubby knew bugger all when we moved in together and I'm damned if she's going to be as indulged as he was as a child.