to want to elope

[harriet247]

Soo I think dp is planning on proposing but im already worrying a bit because I dont wabt a big family do- both our parents are split and there is soo much awkwardness and people that dont get on etc that I know it would cause us a few headaches.
Ive told dp a few times that I want to elope, just me him and baby dd but he says he wants a big do so that little dd will feel very special and enjoy it all.
Ive never been a wedding imaginer anyway, never played weddings at school-I played cowboys with the boys!
But dps mum eloped with hia now stepdad and I get the feeling that he felt left out because he didn't know he mum had remarried until afterwards (they had been living with their step dad for years though)
I just want our marriage to be about us and not family politics. ..aibu?

How old is dd?

We had the wedding we could afford and it was a fantastic day but if we were doing it again now I would take the kids and my man and elope!

no - we did it because me (now ex) DH dislikes being 'looked at' and being the centre of attention

Go for it! DH and I got married in Vegas just the two of us and it was fanastic. We streamed it online so people back home could watch and had a reception when we got back - so combined the best of both worlds. I wouldn't change a thing about it. You spend so much time running around stressing and trying to talk to people when you have a big do that you don't get to enjoy the time with your DH. I would highly recommend having a wedding just for you and dd if that's what you want!

YANBU but then neither is he. You both have valid reasons for what you want, although he seems to be projecting a bit onto your DD.

What about a compromise where you get married just the three of you and a couple of witnesses somewhere nice, and then have a big evening party when you get back with a big dress for you and a BM dress for DD etc?

We did best thing we ever did,

Don't tell anyone, even afterwards, no one noticed the rings,

we had a second laid back(we didn't care) wedding month later, which was a huge amount of fun because we already had our unruined day,

We invited everyone to a celebration of marriage, and asked everyone to bring their favourite dish as a present. Brilliant fun,

Just do it, it is your business, enjoy it anyway you want.

We're doing it on new years eve :o

Shhhh...don't tell anyone...