WIBU to post...

[amievil]

... in a thread that I have managed to work out is about me, dedpite the number of inaccuracies, half truths and down right lies that have put up by the OP?

Are you really, really certain? This is a big country and a big site, even bigger if you remember the Republic of Ireland posts at the same time of day as we do.

I think in your shoes I would either get in touch with the OP offline or ignore. Am I right in thinking that you've guessed it's about you, but you can't identify the OP?

Oh dear. Sorry to hear you have been on the receiving end of such a post. Are you 100% sure it's you though? Is there no way that what is written could be about absolutely anyone else, especially as you say there are inaccuracies and half truths?

Nosy as I am wanting to know which thread I think it would be better for you to tackle the person privately.

There are those who would love to read the drama, if we're being honest but it would not be of any use to you to get into a public argument.

Perhaps reporting the thread to mn and asking them to delete it would be best?

And remember the whole 'three sides to every story' thing. Are they lying or do they genuinely have a perspective that to you seems like it must be lies and inaccuracies?

Talk to them 1 to 1. That's really best all round. Nobody has ever come off one of those threads feeling good.

Do you think you know who OP is in real life, or could it be one of a number of people?

and yes, perhaps it is a similar situation. No situation is totally unique

If they changed x to y and 1 to 2 and moved a to b then that would be about ME! Therefore it must be about me and they're lying.

Well, maybe not. Maybe it's about y and 2 and b and not you at all.

x, 1, a

You get what I'm trying to say

need coffee.

Thanks for the quick replies.

It's the true bits that make it about me. It's the half truths and lies that are making the vast majority of the community advise the OP to "LTB"

Are you thinking it's your DP who's posted about you amievil?

If it is, just talk to them.

ah, ok, this is about your partner.

All the more reason to NOT have it out on a public forum!

Is your partner lying? Or are they telling things from their pov?

For example, my husband used to go out, get pissed, turn off his phone.

I was very distressed about it. I truly believed he was doing it because he didn't want to be with me.
He truly felt I was trying to control him and claimed that turning off his phone was to stop me from screaming abuse at him.

our feelings about the same event were totally different. Our views of the same event contradicted each other. Because they were from different viewpoints. Not because either of us were lying.

Now, if you are saying that your partner is claiming that you slapped them across the face with a kipper and that never happened, then fair enough. But if they are saying that an event happened and it did but you don't feel that motivations or whatever were as described, that's not a lie but a matter of perspective.

But it's really hard to say because of course, we don't know what thread you're on about or anything.

Please don't bring your argument on here. It would be unhelpful for you both.

talk to your partner.

Listen to them too.

Oh dear,i hope this isnt a thread im thinking of.

If you're going to post, do so carefully. Coincidences do happen.

Cross post.

I don't think anyone has ever LtB solely because mumsnet advised them too. If your DP is unhappy enough to be seeking advice and misrepresenting your relationship, then you have significant problems anyway. Talk to them.

I find it very telling OP, that having come across a thread which you believe to be by your partner, you haven't immediately gone to speak to them about it, or shown concern that she could feel so unhappy as to be advised to ltb. It is very telling indeed that you have instead started a thread on MN where she is likely to see it, having a good old moan about the mighty injustices of what she has posted.

Stop game playing, looking for attention and derailing a place she has come to for support and guidance. Go and have a think and then sit down with her and talk. This thread will not help your cause one bit and comes across as very me me me. Think about what she's said and why she might be feeling the way she is. That's what you should take from her post, not outrage that she dared to vent on a public forum where she is perfectly entitled to say whatever she likes.