To tell my dd (12) that she should knock on our bedroom door before coming in as we could be having sex?

[DorrisM]

Over the last few weeks dd2 has got into the habit of walking into our room without knocking, which I think is fine if the door is open but not if it's shut. Last week When she did it I told her again to knock and said you might see something you'd rather not. She said sorry, so all fine.

This morning I was woken to the sound of the door shutting and then a little while later she just walked in. DH told her again she should knock, she apologised. Only to do it again ten minutes later so I told I got a bit cross and said we could have been having sex. Have I traumatised her? She shuddered, said yuk and wandered off.

She's 12, she's just rude as at that age she can understand perfectly.

perfectly reasonable I think.

YANBU. Knocking on someone's door is just polite and a lesson she has to learn.

You need a 'Do not disturb - parents at it' sign to put on the door. That'll keep her out.

We just yell out as soon as we hear the door handle, but our door opens against my bedside table so you have to actually walk in to see anything.

12&15 y flee long before doing that.

DD2 because she's and DD1 because she has manners.

DD1 is far to down to earth and sensible to find the idea of her parents having sex embarrassing.

And far too dizzy and dyslexic to remover to knock.

I don't make DD2 knock because I refuse to knock on her door.

I like to see what's on her laptop, now and again

How can anyone feel relaxed enough to DTD when they know there are children wandering about the house likely to interrupt?

With a 7 and 8 year old who do not sleep through, if I didn't take the risk we would never DTD!!

You have not traumatised her much but may have taught her to knock!

Yanbu

This reminds me of the three boys who watched through the window as their parents DTD:

10yo: Mum and Dad are fighting!
12yo: No, they are making love!
14yo: Yes, and badly!

Thanks for the giggle worrysigh