Opinions please

[Belle15]

Aibu to consider punching walls, shouting and prodding aggressively as only one step away from full blown dv and is definitely bullying behaviour at the very least??

Yanbu.

Prodding aggressively practically is DV, but I don't think that shouting and punching walls is.

I've shouted at my husband on occasion, he is most certainly not being domestically abused or bullied.

Er...more info?

No, I wouldn't say they were always a sign of dv.

YANBU but I would still see it as abusive behaviour.

It is Domestic Abuse, most professions don't use the term Domestic Violence, anymore.

If you hit your partner, it is assault.

DA is very damaging, if you scare the other people you live with, enough, you don't need to actually hit them.

If you are physically etc weaker than the other person, you comply to protect yourself, but the effect is the same as being hit, emotionally.

I missed the "prodding aggressively", that is a form of DV.

How it is handled afterwards depends on the whole set if circumstances, tbh.

It should be discussed, but being hung up on labels isn't the point.

Hat to add, you would have to look at why the other person behaved like that.

Fir example, if you live with EA, you can react with aggression, but it doesn't mean that you, are the one abusing.

It is to complex to answer without circumstantial context, tbf.

It certainly shows a lack of control and problems with aggression and temper. It would ring alarm bells for me.

Definitely not normal behaviour and not comfortable to be around. It is meant to be intimidating and therefore likely to be abusive.

prodding is a sign that a man might go violent. Men do, more than women. Check the prison records

Violent behaviour intended to intimidate or control by means of threat is dv in my book. And assessing dv behaviour is part of my job.

Yes, it's abusive. I've lost my temper with partners. The correct response is to stalk out of the house and stand at the end of the drive, smoking moodily. Even if you don't smoke. Demonstration violence is a threat display. Punching walls is something you do in private.