My 'bingo wings'

[Jalexis]

Just a rant really, I have forgiven DH for his stupid comment earlier (see below), but I'm seeking some sympathy, I feel wounded

I gave birth six days ago, it was pretty traumatic. Today we took our first walk in the park as a family, something DH and I have really been looking forward to doing.

On the way home, he offered to push the buggy, I declined and said, 'it'll help me lose my little tummy'. DH responds with 'and the bingo wings'...

I almost stopped in my tracks and probably looked a bit shocked, to which he added '... Just saying...'.

WTF are you 'just saying'??!!

I'd like to add that I have always been a slim size 8-10. I put on very little weight during the pregnancy, and a quick check this morning has me at just under 9 stone.

What is wrong with men?? He was devastated when I reacted with a few tears and I know he didn't mean to upset me, but seriously, what goes on between their ears sometimes??

Lord knows! Congratulations on the newborn. I just think some men honestly don't realise how traumatic having your body changed in this way can be. He probably really regrets what he said without thinking :)

nothing.... and that's the problem, not thinking before speaking.

It may have been meant as a little joke, but shooting from the lip is fraught with danger.

Also men don't get hormones and what they do and what birth does to the female body. It's something that if you think about he has probably done frequently, most of the time you smile, sometimes you think you git, sometimes you just ignore. He doesn't mean to upset you (I hope) he just did.

The short answer is "absolutely nothing". I would kill to be under 9 stone ever again, let alone six days after having a baby!

At least he had the good grace to be devastated. He needs to be doing some major sucking up.

And congratulations on your baby

Congratulations!

Apart from the fact the 'bingo wings' is a crap expression anyway, you didn't need to hear that.

And it undoubtedly isn't even the case you need to 'sculpt' your body. You sound pretty perfect.

He, OTOH, needs to zip his gob.

I honestly don't think they think like we do.

Had a brief (few times) sexual liason with a guy earlier this year. My first for a couple of years and was at my heaviest (size 12/14 but I'm 5ft 4 and don't carry excess weight well...literally pear-shaped and I weighed 11 st before anyone suggests it was all in my head!).

Strangely I was at my most confident (as no longer crippled by depression and anxiety). The chap knew I'd had some esteem and confidence issues and one night in bed commented 'your body is so sexy 'cos you're a bit chunky, it's nice. Don't think I'd fancy you as much if you were thinner'.

He really was lovely and trying to make me feel good but I of course focused on 'a BIT CHUNKY?!' Bless him, it was true and he was trying to make me feel good about it!.

Thanks everyone, I honestly know he didn't mean anything nasty, it just seemed bonkers to me that he should comment on any issue related to my body so soon after the birth!

Bloody Men!!

I always think it's a bad habit to put yourself down.

Your little tummy comment to him showed that shooting season was open.

Both of you need to change, as you now have a little witness!

Congratulations on the birth of your babe, and hope you let your DH push the buggy around so you can relax in future.

Venus she had a baby 6 days before I don't really think the little tummy comment was open season . He was being thoughtless. I almost wish men got to carry one child in a family it would be a very different world.

They dont think!my dp told me yesterday he was suprised my belly didnt just suck in straight away-I gained 3 stone and had an emc but still waa back in size 8 in 3 months, not on purpose-ive just got naturally small body.still hurt though!

And im sure you oh is no adonis himself!