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AIBU?

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Slinkysista · 29/11/2013 16:04

Brother has opened a new business which up to three weeks ago I worked in a few days a week for nothing ( just wanted to help get it off the ground). I still work there but they paid me last month, anyway the arrangement is that I work one day during the week and my brother and SIL stay home and look after their children and mine.
Anyway last night Sil and bro had to meet some other relatives for dinner. Bro texted me to work asking if my DH would be home at the usual time to get our children, I said I thought so but if he was running late then they should leave the children with me for the last 10/15 minutes of my working day. They said it would be ok, they'd just wait on DH.
Anyway, when DH arrived to pick up the children, my SiL was standing waiting on the street with them and was in really bad form. I thought that it was perhaps because my DH was 10 mins late.
I asked my brother about it today and all hell has broken loose!!
I was annoyed because I look after their children all the time and would never behave like this.
Need another perspective on this:-(
Sorry for any spelling mistakes I'm very upset at how my brother spoke to me today.

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springytickle · 29/11/2013 17:18

YANBU.

I would say let it calm down before having it out with them, but I do that and people walk all over me Hmm

Are you a slanging-match type of family? If so then go with that and have it out with him.

What did he say when 'all hell broke loose' today?

It's not on, whatever it was. I'm sorry you're upset - families can be the worst ime. As my grandma used to say 'Put your outside face on when you're talking to me!' A lot of families would do well to remember that.

YourMaNoBraBackOfMyCar · 29/11/2013 17:20

YANBU. Don't do anything for them unpaid again. Childcare as well as free labour. Why is their time more important than yours? I'm sure your brother would be furious if it was the other way round.

Beamur · 29/11/2013 17:27

YANBU
It's not your fault if your DH was late plus they had said they would wait.
If they don't apologise, then you do need to be a bit more assertive if you don't want to be taken for a mug.

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