to warn about the fruitshoot?! (Lighthearted)

[GuernseyTeddy]

New mum today at yummy style waterbabies class at the local pool.

Started a conversation out of nowhere in the changing rooms about a local santa's grotto. Didn't get any responses, and other mums pointedly ignoring question.

She then compounds the error by buying a fruitshoot for her baby in the cafe. Cue mutters from yummy mummy's. Yep, it is that type of group.

Personally, I don't care whether she feeds her kid sugar from the bag with a spoon but maybe I should mention the social faux pas of said fruitshoot??

The other mums sounds like a bunch of ignorant bitches tbh if I were her I'd look for another group with nicer people in it!

Sorry I know you said light-hearted!

I never "got" the pearl-clutchiness over fruit shoots - it is squash in a bottle..

I buy sugar free which gets everyone hyped about aspartame too....

hey ho, life is to short to give a damn about what others think - they'd rather give acid rich, fruit sugar rich, apple juice with all the fibre of the fruit taken out (the bit that helps the fruit sugar absorb slowly) whilst kidding themselves it is "better"....

It tastes fucking horrible but kids seem to like them, and as long as they drink other things like water, milk, juice etc occasionally, what's the problem? I think if I bought my DC a drink and someone made a face and told me it was socially unacceptable, I'd make a face at the cheek of it. It's not like she bought the kid a bottle of vodka.

It's milk or water here with a fatwa on raisins!!!

Seriously though, I didn't say anything (of course!). But wish I could have found something to say in a jokey way. The other mums are really nice. It's just a bit cliquey in a jolly hockey sticks sort of way.

I have no issue with the Fruit Shoots, ny son gets them when he wants and I even buy them for the house.

No idea why she was ignored when she asked a question either. This is why I don't go these group things. I'd end up shunned after telling something to stick their opinion up their arses

I'd feel the same as SP

If she's anything like me chances are she's already made her own judgements about the group already - and decided they can kiss her arse

Ugh! Used "already twice in one sentence. Should have read it before hitting reply :)

Shame you couldn't have found something friendly to say to her at the time rather than posting on here later. She probably felt very unwelcome.

They would have got a swift boot up their floot

As Lady said, you should have spoke to her.

What's wrong with a Santa's grotto???

At my swimming group they were talking about making a birthday cake without sugar. Why? Just why would you do that?
Fruit shoot bottles are brilliant. Just the right size in my bag and they don't leak. If you wash them out and fill them with water you can get the raised eyebrows over and over again!

Aside from the Fruit Shoot debate, how could you possibly think these are "really nice" if the pointedly ignored the other mum asking a simple question.

No wonder some new mums feel isolated with nasty women like this around......

I'm worried about Santas Grotto now! Is there something I should know??

DS1 has been having fruit shoots in his packed lunch quite regularly.

I'm not a yummy mummy, though. I'm just grateful that a boy who doesn't drink enough drinks at all.

And I hate the sort of behaviour where an existing clique freezes out a newcomer to a group. It's just bloody rude.

Did you speak to her?
The other mums don't sound remotely nice, they sound like the kind of women that make other women and new mums feel lonely and inadequate.

I have told this before but it is lovely. Was in a supermarket in Qatar and buying a sandwich and a fruit shoot. British woman behind me on the queue caught my eye, I said they were my guilty secret. She said "oh God are you on Mumsnet too?" Now we are great friends

I went to a group like this a while back, I'm an old timer third time Mum, most of the others had Boden clad babies and toddlers with them. My eldest is at high school and tbh I had very little in common with them but DD enjoyed it well enough.
One week a noticeably very young mum came with her baby, she had someone who I think was a HV with her (she wore an ID thing) and she was obviously quite shy. I moved over next to her and got chatting, using the fact that our babies were around the same age to get her talking a bit. The other Mums totally ignore her to the point that they turned their backs on her and spoke just a bit louder. Anyway the group ended and as we were leaving a couple of the Mums were making comments like 'do you think she knows who the Father is' etc. they got the beady eye off me and I just said 'well if you had bothered to speak to her you would know wouldn't you?' And walked off.
I went back a couple of times but the young Mum didn't sadly. We stopped going shortly afterwards a DD had got too old, Thank God.
I hate it when a group purposely exclude others for no reason.

What isla said, if you ignored her too count yourself amongst them.

I have three DC now, live in a 'naice' area and mingle with the yar yar mummies. I remember being a first time mum at 21, totally out of my depth, isolated and skint. I always try to make people feel welcome, I would be so sad to imagine someone left a group feeling how I did when I had my DS.

Wish I had of been there to speak to her! Those mums sound horrible!! Wonderful if she was suffering with PND or something, why are some people, especially parents, so flaming stuck up?!

I know you dressed up this thread under the title 'lighthearted' but I'm really not buying it. Having re-read, I have to say you really don't sound any nicer than the women who ignored her.
She is new, so she dares to start a conversation about Santa's grotto (hardly unreasonable given the time of year)
Then according to you she 'then compounds the error' by giving out a fruitshoot.
wtaf?