My son goes to a weekly activity and when I found out that a boy in his school shares the same interest, I offered to take him along too. My son wasn’t really friends with him as the boy is in Year 6 and my son is in Year 4, but they get along fine. The journey takes about half an hour by bus in the rush hour. The boy was well behaved and polite at first, but after about four weeks his behaviour began to deteriorate. He is rude to me and to to the coach, he demands so much attention that it is practically a private lesson for him (my son pushes himself forward a bit but the other children are really polite and can’t get a word in edgeways) and his behaviour and language is often inappropriate. Now I get my son asking me what paedo means, what blow jobs are and what humping means (usually very loudly on the crowded bus...yes, my son is no angel either!). A few weeks ago, I told his mum very gently that I was finding his behaviour difficult to cope with. She said that he has mild Aspergers, but that his behaviour wasn’t acceptable and that she would talk to him. But she was very distressed by what I said and started crying and told me how difficult she finds it to cope with him. I felt awful about upsetting her, but she did talk to him and things improved for a short time. Now we’re back to the bad behaviour and although I understand that he can’t help much of what he says and does, I’ve really had enough. I don’t want to take him anymore, but don’t know how to tell his mum given her past reaction. I think she only hears criticism about her son, which must be hurtful. I’m torn between chickening out and basically lying (saying we’re not going anymore, but I could get caught out), or just being honest and asking her to take him instead. Or maybe I should just be a bit more charitable and carry on taking him (not sure his mum would have the time to do it). What do you think I should do?