aibu to think postman should not be changing tyres/ talking at length with people on his rounds?

[Nomorepat]

Waiting for an important letter which is dependent on what time I receive it today. So go for a stroll to see if postie is in area. There is he is in the next street changing some girl's tyre for her-I know this is not his car and ours is his last street. He then proceeds to chat to this girl for about 10 minutes, then another woman for about 5 minutes.

I am peed off about this. AIBU?

I hope your letter has been lost in the post

OP, we all pay his wages, and everyone but you is happy with this situation, so why don't you just stop using Royal Mail, deliver all your mail in person and collect from other people and we'll continue to pay for this lovely man.

Ok OP, you need to be nicer.

HTH.

Our postman is like that and he's fantastic. He removed a large spider for me once! He also has waited because he knows I do the school run, come back to me when he saw me coming in because he had a parcel for me, staked up our tree when the stake had come off... all without being asked to.

If you can't change a tyre easily then calling someone out may be easily a couple of hours and where she has to get to may be as important or more important as your letter. I asked some workmen to change our flat on the motorway on the way to a funeral. I'm very glad they didn't say "oh it's not our job" because we would have missed it by the time rescue had got to us.

I think you need to watch the milkman ad.

Now we don't have so many milkmen the postman has to help!

I think he sounds lovely.

Oh and YABU

Why why why why why why why why why why why x 1million come on aibu if you're not willing to accept that everyone has said you are being aibu? Why not just go on chat and show the facts as a thread instead of asking for opinion which is what aibu is after all?

If you need it by a specific time, cough up and pay for special delivery. Otherwise YABU.

Yanbu. How dare he be helpful and kind. He must be a grumpy old dick who has time for nothing and no one and eagerly shoves your post through the door at 5am on the dot without eating weeing drinking or anything else that may take away the valuable posting time.

I imagine the postie's job is to post all the letters on his round rather than in a particular time frame so he IS doing his job.

When I was waiting for an important letter last year (not time critical, just really important news) I told my postie - he is lovely like yours - and he specially looked up my post first for days as otherwise we too were last on the round. Try making friends with your postie; he sounds just the kind of nice guy that would be willing to go to a little effort in checking out your post from his pile on one occasion when you need it, and in return you can be kind and friendly to him on his round. Everyone will be happy .

Well you may have had your post delivered today OP but if I was your postie, it'd be accidentally going astray from now on.

I can't stand it when people trot out the 'I pay your wages' line makes me simmer with rage!

Miserable sod.

Really???? Yabu ... You sound like a lovely person - not ??

Here, have my first grip.

I wouldn't be able to change a flat tyre either. Lets hope if you are ever stranded anywhere noone helps you as its not part of their job.
What a horrible miserable person.

Oh, fuck me backwards!

You pay his wages.

Thought you were in a rush! Have you opened your letter or are you still whinging!

Actually, I've changed my mind, you are completely in the right and definitely have an excellent basis for complaint.

You really must go straight down to the PO Depot/Sorting Office and demand to speak to his Manager. Don't forget to put your issues across in full, not forgetting to mention the desperately urgent time sensitive letter that was sent via normal post and the fact that you pay the wages of everyone in the building (with your 60p stamp).

Go on, please .

Contact the newpapers, they could photograph you with a sad face holding the letter and pictures of you pointing at the tyre.

metaphorical and for the good hearted postie - just in the hope of holding him up a bit more...

Contact the newpapers, they could photograph you with a sad face holding the letter and pictures of you pointing at the tyre.

Love this

This is a bit weird. It's nice that the postman is so helpful and all, but if someone posted on here that they were waiting at a PO counter, and the person serving popped out to change someone's tyre - or went over to a customer's house for a hot chocolate - and she was cross at being kept waiting ... there would definitely be a large chorus of YANBU then. I think the two situations are comparable in the OP's mind.

Am not convinced OP is in the right but i do think some of the messages calling her selfish etc are a bit unnecessary.

Well, if it's not a postman pat-related joke, I refer you OP to your own posts on the 'how much for your little girl?' thread - you can't possibly report this man without being a mahoosive hypocrite!

After all...

If you report him, they will sack him!

He may have a young family to support!

He didn't really mean it!

Without actually having been there, I determine by my MN psychic powers that he must have been re-enacting a scene from a famous film (Il Postino?) so he meant no harm and you are over-reacting hysterically!

What he wasn't doing was making sexist and belittling remarks to a lone woman with a child. But apparently that's ok while at work...?

I haven't read the thread just wanted to say YANBU and 'entitled' raises eyebrows of course he sounds lovely but he's being paid to do a job and your mail was urgent.