aibu to think postman should not be changing tyres/ talking at length with people on his rounds?

[Nomorepat]

Waiting for an important letter which is dependent on what time I receive it today. So go for a stroll to see if postie is in area. There is he is in the next street changing some girl's tyre for her-I know this is not his car and ours is his last street. He then proceeds to chat to this girl for about 10 minutes, then another woman for about 5 minutes.

I am peed off about this. AIBU?

Yes, I report everyone who disagrees with me. It's tiring!

Moogy hold your breath because....I agree with you!

Bet we both thought that day would never come, eh?

It's really up to the librarian then, if she doesn't mind him being there, there's no real problem. If she does, it's down to her to sort. I can't imagine any student being intimidated by a postman, it's not like they hide axes in their sacks.

Ok I've not read all comments on this thread because frankly I can't be arsed but surely the day when we all go to work "just to do the job" will be a very sad one indeed.

So the hospital employee who takes time to sit and talk to a distressed patient or relative, get them a cuppa or a box of tissues, working late at the end of a shift to catch up on time spent "not doing the job they are paid to do" - do they fall into the same category as your postman?

Or the council worker who finds a dead cat at a refuse point, who calls an owner to tell them the sad news? Again, not doing the job that they are "paid" to do. Criminal, eh? Particularly given how much council tax costs

Or the pharmacist who makes sure that an elderly patient who can't get out of the house gets their insulin on time by taking said medication to them in the middle of the day. Should they also be criticised for "not doing the job"?

Or do you think that maybe, just maybe, that by simply being kind, and human, and going the extra mile and using some of your own time to get the job done to make sure that others are OK, might be a worthwhile use of time?

Naive? Perhaps. But I know what type of a world I'd rather live in.

heartbroken
law of averages meant it had to happen eventually!

I don't actually mind being called a 'twat' or a 'cockwomble' -offensive as that is, I wouldn't report anybody for it ever, however, reporting somebody for being a troll when they just disagree with you well, that really is bad form, isn't it? Once again, I am not trolling-just asking for opinions and I've been told that I'm in the wrong. Fair enough.

No it's not a pisstake; I am genuinely peed off with him changing tyres, chatting incessantly to people on the street and generally metaphorically saying a big 'f you, you don't matter" to those who pay his wages i.e. those sending and waiting for mail*

Doesn't the postman have to pay other peoples wages too? So really, he could say a big fuck you to the world too!

Sorry OP, I really would love to see things from your point of view but frankly I can't get my head that far up your arse!

Enjoy your fucking letter!

ohfourfoxache, there's nothing at all with people helping others out, but why couldn't he do it in his own time?

Yes people always need help at convieniently times tires set to go flat at 5:02 when people are allowed to help

I like the sound of your postman

But all those people do pay his wages don't they? Don't they send letters, cards, parcels? Or do know for csure that none of the, ever do? So he's going a bit above and beyond for his customers, fostering good public relations among a lot of people. While delivering mail to you, which he did.

Did your letter say on the envelope "Very important letter. Must be delivered by ....."? If not, how would he know? And if you are usually at work during the day, then usually it wouldn't matter what time he delivered it. Do you expect him to be psychic too, and just know?

Perhaps he could chat with a few people along the way and then maybe he'd find out that you're at home this week waiting for an important, time-sensitive letter, maybe he could do a good deed while he's at it .....

If this letter was really 'so important/time dependent', then you should have arranged for special delivery by a specific time.

As for asking people not to tweet about this OP, well, you thought it was okay to start a thread about it on an anonymous online forum so you can't really control where it leads. (Penis beaker anyone?)

I think your postie sounds fantastic and wish there were more like him. I agree with many others on this thread that YABVVU*

*Assuming you're not trolling, of course

If you had any feeling for anyone other than yourself, OP, you could have bothered to find out why the person with the flat tire needed it doing now.

You have no idea what kind of situation they were in. It may have been an emergency, for all you know. They may have needed to get somewhere ASAP for something urgent. But none of that is relevant to you, is it? On his own time ffs.

If you had not gone out looking for the postie and stayed in, waiting for him to arrive you wouldn't have known any of this. It was your own weird stalkerish behaviour that caused this not the postie doing a kind act.

Would I have cared if my postie had taken longer than I would have liked to deliver my letter. No because I wouldn't have gone looking for him. It was a really stupid thing to do in any case because you could have missed him delivering to your house. There is no obligation to deliver the letters in a particular order so long as they are delivered within the time scale allowed for the round so he could have come from a different direction and on finding you not in, taken your post back to the post office. Or if it weren't signed for, you could have not received it until so late that your vital plans for tomorrow would have changed anyway. You really should have stayed at home, saved all this angst and not wasted your day, moaning on here and generally having a hissy fit.

And if you aren't home most of the time (you said you had a week off work) how do you know that he didn't deliver the post earlier than normal, that today wasn't a light day and he actually had plenty of time to change the tyre and still arrive at the normal time with your post? You have no idea.

Get a life and find something worth worrying about would you. Your attitude stinks.

Yabu. The post woman and I often have looong chats about furniture diying and painting. One day she came in and I showed her all the painting I was working on.

Aww what a lovely postman! Isn't it great to think there are local people out there you can depend on. YABU and a bit of a grump

I think that generally YABU because as long as he's delivered all the mail he is supposed to by the end of the day then anything else he chooses to do is fine.

Years ago, I was not happy with a beauty treatment I had that cost £100+. The therapist left me lying on a table 'half done' while she opened the door wide (during the really cold winter we had of sub zero temperatures) and disappeared to look at her father's new car for 20 minutes. She couldn't have cared less about customer service. But that is a very different situation from the one you describe, OP.

OP this has been a harsh thread but in all honesty did you really expect anyone to completely agree with you?
Can you honestly say you were completely in the right to be so hard on what appears to be a kind and conscientious postie?

I would like to think that after this you start to be a little more reasonable and a little less selfish.

The people on this thread making loads of personal attacks are not exactly covering themselves in glory either

I'm loving this thread.
It is a pisstake isn't it?

I think YABU also.

And I wouldn't know where my postman was or what he was doing if he arrived at my house later than usual as I wouldn't go out to hunt him down.

A) I've no doubt he will appear at some point; b) I can't really be arsed to play hunt the postie and c) even if I could be arsed and went out to find out where he was, I know he wouldn't be allowed to hand my post to me anyway, so my effort would have been wasted.

Good on the postie for helping someone is what I say.

(No shorts here, by the way...the NW coast is clearly too cold for exposed flesh!)

Where I live the postmen are in such a rush to finish their rounds that they drive badly and certainly don't stop to help anyone. I think a helpful postman would be a nice thing to have.