aibu to think postman should not be changing tyres/ talking at length with people on his rounds?

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Waiting for an important letter which is dependent on what time I receive it today. So go for a stroll to see if postie is in area. There is he is in the next street changing some girl's tyre for her-I know this is not his car and ours is his last street. He then proceeds to chat to this girl for about 10 minutes, then another woman for about 5 minutes.

I am peed off about this. AIBU?

Would you like a lesson? You'll be prepared for next time, you could also learn the art of polite conversation as well, then you could take over when he stops for a natter with someone.

He does this all the time, though, on one occasion he was chatting to somebody on the street (it was a saturday so I was at home) and I was waiting for the post. I politely asked him how long he'd be getting to my house; he was there 15 minutes later just chatting. He is an arse who has forgotten what his job is.

Going to let this go now. One more thing, though, don't forget to be all forgiving and sanguine next time you're anxious and impatient and somebody's not delivering a service that you've paid for, will you?

My mum's postman will take her parcels to the post office for her, because she lives in a tiny village with a bus service once a week!

Why assume that most MN-ers can't change a tyre? I can and I am sure plenty f others on here can.

I would still be greatful if someone stopped to help me though, just like I have stopped and helped others in the past.

You sound like a bit of a grump, OP

What an understatement. If I said what I though the OP was acting like my post would get deleted.

My postman stopped to help someone who's car broke down waaaah! Why isn't it all about ME, ME, ME, ME!!! waaaah!

Mine's still in his shorts too and that makes me very happy, he's lovely. If I'm out he calls back on his way to the PO as his route goes past me. He's also quite used to parcels turning up for me with all sorts of odd names.

Best one so far was 'To The Mad Dog Lady'. The house number was one out, but he still knew it was for me.

So its not the first time you have been badly let down by him then?

Nope still can't raise any sympathy for you.

If nothing else, it is lovely how many great posties there are out there. This thread has highlighted that.

Look OP, you have a big thread here, and NOBODY ELSE AGREES WITH YOU.

Doesn't that give you a great big fat hint that you really are being quite remarkably unreasonable? Or are you still on your 'world revolves around me' planet?

Actually, op, it is you who is an arse. A massive, massive arse.

YABU, and making yourself sound rather unpleasant, TBH.

I think postmen do a fairly shitty job. They're out there in all sorts of crap weather, fending off dogs, wading through snow and puddles, just to put bits of paper through our letterboxes.

And all that awful walking

OP I can just see the thread now, from you if the boot was on the other foot.

"AIBU to be annoyed that my postie refused to help me change my tyre this morning even though he could see I was struggling! Said he was too busy doing the job he's paid to do. What a jobs worth! Where's the community spirit"

I would hate to be a person in need when your about.
Lets hope the next time you are stuck and need help there are nicer people than you about who will take 15 minutes out of their day to help you.

I think your postie is great and if I knew where he was based I would contact the local sorting office and sing his praises.

Op - really?? You can't see that YABU???

The post isnt going to arrive at the same time each week or day anyway because it depends on too many other factors. Surely you can wait an hour or so longer for it as it is unpredictable anyway.

If something is that important and has to arrive on a specific day, nobody in their right mind would send it by normal post especially this close to Christmas!!

Was it a parcel of salt and vinegar for the massive chip you have on your shoulder OP?

You'll be singing a different song if you get a flat, and he sails past you.

I'd flip you the bird if I were him.

But YOU didn't pay for it. The person sending the letter did.

how can you politely ask him how long it will take to get to your house???? I can't see anyway that could come across as polite. Each day will be different, depending on how heavy his bag is and how many other people have/do not have mail that day, how many gates he has to open, dogs he has to dodge or long drives he was to walk down. Oh and how many other rude people stop him to demand exactly what time he will deliver their mail too! Why the heck do you think you are entitled to ask him this? as long as you get your mail eventually, its none of your business!

If your letter was special delivery before 9 and it was 8.58 then yanbu, otherwise yabu selfish and entitled. Postie doesn't get paid by the hour, and so what if he's chatting or helping someone out. You never know, one day you might be in a pickle and he's the one who offers to help. It's called community spirit, and long may it last!

OP once again you are not the customer! the person who send the letter is the customer because it's them who laid the stamp!!

Nothing wrong with being a bit anxious or impatient if the service which was paid for wasn't being delivered. However in this instance the service which was paid for was provided!

Had the postman swung naked from the lampposts he would still have delivered the service as you got your letter.

Was it a parcel of salt and vinegar for the massive chip you have on your shoulder OP? arf!!

fucking

If there are posties swinging naked from lamp posts tomorrow im blaming you :o

don't forget to be all forgiving and sanguine next time you're anxious and impatient and somebody's not delivering a service that you've paid for, will you?

What, and miss the opportunity for a thread like this? No chance, I'm going to throw my toys out of the pram big time and then insist IANBU even though everyone else disagrees.

So you've harassed him before about the mail OP? He probably delivers your mail last because you're such a douche about it. As would I if I were him.