to dislike the easy name changing on Mn?

[Mintyy]

Call me old fashioned, but I sort of like getting to know, in the very loosest sense, the people that I spend time with fairly regularly (ie. you lot).

I sometimes think that the dreaded Mumsnet Royalty (sorry for using that hateful phrase which is always but always used as an attack, goady, personal or otherwise) are just people who don't name change and so more or less everyone knows who they are.

I can understand name changing for the personal stuff, of course I can and do it myself, but why do people permanently name change every few weeks or months? Don't you ever think "I wish I wasn't anonymous and that someone else on MN felt a bit of human connection with me"?

Just curious.

I have nc'd quite recently, but I do like the feeling of being 'known', not in a royalty sense, just in a making friends kind of way. I probably overshare, but have no real reason to maintain extreme anonymity, though I can fully appreciate people's reasons to do so.

You tell everyone who you are when you nc, though, PMcGM.

I don't think the 24 hour rule would be a good thing for reasons that have been mentioned in previous posts. Some posters need/want to nc for sensitive posts and need advice then, not 24 hours later. Personally I don't post on mn for support, having watched the way some posters like to rip apart some OP's I'd rather go elsewhere for support and keep mn for light hearted stuff.

As I said earlier I name change because I get bored. I'm not a prolific poster so am unlikely to be recognised by most posters even with the names I used for longer periods of time. I don't troll, I have better things to do with my time but I do like the fact that I have the freedom to name change if I so wish.

I haven't been on MN that long, think I started posting when pg about ... Er actually, maybe 2 years is no longer "not that long".

Have nc'd for advice or to offer advice where I'd need to say something outing if tied back to usual name. I've also changed my "regular" name a couple of times, but try to keep it vaguely on a theme.

If namechanging was restricted, I wouldn't use the site to offer or seek advice on certain topics.

Definitely think this thread on jobs & salaries would be a LOT shorter with a 24 hr timeout: www.mumsnet.com/Talk/_chat/1920658-What-is-your-job-and-how-much-do-you-earn

I suppose it is what you use MN for.

I don't use it for support and don't really talk about personal stuff on here.

AnAdventure, yes, I suppose I do. Is that annoying? It seems disingenuous not to...

Agree usual.

Now that I've NC (after previously sharing too much) I hope to keep the same name and won't use it in that way.

I've name changed because my first name was a giveaway as to who I was...then I changed to my love of horror movies combined to my (at the time) head girl status!!!!

But I do understand OP...I found it easier to befriend people on other forums where they keep their name, whereas on Mumsnet I haven't made friends at all.

No, it's nice. I used to do it when I thought anyone would have the faintest idea who I was, and still generally do if I change mid-thread.

MaryZ no, just me :)

Yes, I've seen plenty of support threads on here over the few years I've been here. I agree that mn can provide some wonderful support at times, some of those threads have even being on AIBU.

I've also seen posts where the poster seems to delight in being vile just for the sake of it. If I was feeling vulnerable I'm not sure I'd want to expose myself to this type of poster, hence I restrict my use of mn to light hearted topics.

I'm a serial n/c for privacy reasons but have never done it to cause trouble or be a cunt (unless joking with mates)

If I have made friends I always let them know.

the great thing about mumsnet though is if you really need help and support you get it. or you equally get a needed kick in the arse and that can be just as helpful.

also you can have a real laugh on some threads and a good old debate on others.

can be addictive though!!

maryz saw the post where you were accused of both things. seriously though it was so daft you just knew it was a troll.

to me if people name change to be cunts well let them really. perhaps they have a need and if it stops them being cunts in RL it's for the best.

I change my name for particularly personal threads. I like it that I can do that without faffinf aout too much or waiting for 24 hours. That wouldn't help me at all.

I've been Schro/Schrodingers (in some longer/shorter form or another) for about 3 years, I think.

I do sometimes wonder if some of the people that I may dislike on some threads on here were posters that I really liked under old names. It's good that people can remain anonymous if they wish though.

"I do sometimes wonder if some of the people that I may dislike on some threads on here were posters that I really liked under old names. It's good that people can remain anonymous if they wish though."

I know what you are saying Shro, and sometimes wonder the same thing. Although I really only seem to have trouble with 2 or 3 posters consistently :).

I guess I must be a little bit needy but I like to know (even if in the very loosest sense) the people I am talking with. I remember little snippets about people (eg. Rusy Bear has a picture of the original rusty bear, her childhood teddy, on her profile and her father lived to be over 100 years) and it makes me feel sort of connected, iyswim.

Rather than just posting any old nonsense into the ether.

I've namechanged recently, because I started to get some snarky people making nasty comments about me (ok, not by name, they're snarky but lack balls- but by hinting on various threads) about things that were not my doing or fault! and it upset me, so I've ditched the name(s) I've been using for years and gone with something new.

I'm not hiding who I was or anything, I've still got my profile and if it comes up or it's relevant, I'll say, so if anyone actually gave a shit, they could work out what my name used to be but I just wanted to move away from it a bit since some people seemed to have a big problem for something I had no control over .

I've namechanged to post something mildly embarrassing. Switched back to my original name to post on threads I was already on. Went back to embarrassing thread and replied, still under my original name. Major namechange fail and doubly embarrassing.

Happened twice, I think....

I agree - i only name change for seasonal stuff and not allthat often. I like to know a name

I think you do need a somewhat thick skin to post on public forums sometimes.

But yes if somebody chooses to be a knob to you then it is their problem not yours.

That said there is something very cowardly about namechanging just to be a knob to people. Own your words. But I can see it being handy if you use a public forum for support on something.

I name changed earlier this year. I just felt like it. I don't intend to change again though. When I became Uri I felt like a newbie, not in a nice way either.