To think dh is just lazy, not properly tired!

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I know I am being a bit unreasonable.

Dh works day shifts & night shifts but never in a pattern, just as & when night maintenance needs doing.

He's on a night shift this week & is really getting on my nerves!! Particularly today.

He started his shift @ 9pm yesterday, worked til 3am, was home at 3.20am & in bed by 4am.

He slept til 3pm today so 11hrs sleep.

We had dinner around 5pm (he was still in his sleep wear!!) after he ate he put his head in his hands & slept!! At the table.

I cleared up, put dishwasher etc on & reminded him that ds had a class @ 7pm he always takes him to.

I thought he had went to our room to get dressed but when I went to hurry him I found him asleep again!

I took ds to his class & I'll pick him up again, god dh is still asleep!

I know working shifts plays havoc with your body clock, but quite often it seems to me dh uses it as an excuse to be lazy!

He says all the time about X, Y & Z not bring able to sleep after a night shift but he has no problems with it! No shit Sherlock!

And if I even give him a hint I think he's taking the piss, he'll make me out to be unreasonable.

I sort of know I'm being a bitch unreasonable.

I've worked shifts before and it does cause havoc to you. I was constantly tired, and could sleep all day if I was left to it. Even though I slept it was a very restless sleep as well. A few weeks after till I changed to standard hours my body just returned to normal. Some people just don't adjust well.

Lazy is slobbing around on the sofa when your OH is doing all the housework. Falling asleep at the dinner table after an 11 hour sleep isn't just laziness - he sounds like he's shattered. But I get how it's annoying - I would love so much sleep! I think YABabitU

He sounds exhausted, sorry OP.

Shifts do wear you out but I work 8pm til 8am. That's a night shift!

Bouncing back after shift work gets harder as you get older.

He sounds like he might be struggling a bit!

Is he generally in good health?

You have to ask yourself if he is generally lazy? If not, I think he is shattered.

If I was feeling lazy I'd be sat around on the sofa, feet up, etc.
If I was falling asleep at the drop of hat such as sat at the diner time - well, to me that would be a sign that I was actually exhausted or ill, definitely more than a bit tired and definitely not feeling lazy, for sure.

You're right pobble! Though he never works full 12 hours.

Yes, he's healthy, he's a hard worker & it's a manual job.

I just hate the fact he's in another room, sleeping & he's heading to work again at 9pm.

He cooked dinner, he's not lazy, he generally does most cooking. I was off today - Usually I don't know how long he sleeps as I'm not home til 6 & he's up by then

I'm in too minds as it does sounds like more sleep than most parents get overall. Though I'm sure night shifts play havoc with you etc

Just wonder if yes he is tired but is using shift work to get all the sleep he needs while you are not getting all the sleep you need as parents generally don't.

he may be tired. that doesn't excuse how he's acting though.

he's still a parent, with responsibilities.

i have a friend who is a nurse and she regularly does nightshifts. her partner drops the baby round to me on his way to work, she sleeps til 11am/midday then comes and gets baby and looks after her the rest of the day.

how can he possibly have slept so much over a 24hr period? it's insane!

if it had been my dp i'd have kicked him out of bed and made him take ds to his club too

I have to say though, people that don't work night shifts don't seem to understand the concept of sleeping during the day.

I work all night so I sleep all day until about five. But yet I've previously had people like my old landlord etc wanting to come round as I'll be in. Yes, but I'm sleeping!! Why is this so hard to understand?

Shift work is exhausting, those who haven't done it can never understand it I'm afraid. It's not just the physical amount of time you are awake and then get to sleep, it's the fact your body is fighting its natural biological urges and sleep cycles to either be awake or asleep. If your husband just does nights as and when it's even worse as your body has no pattern at all. He sounds absolutely knackered.

I work shifts, and it gets harder as I get older. I can be very lethargic and grumpy, I have to force myself to take exercise and do the housework. Shifts also cause problems with the immune system, digestion and depression. On behalf of shift workers I apologise, we are horrible to live with.

I just think he must be more tired today as he worked Monday night but didn't sleep on Monday day time.
Maybe the tiredness has caught up with him.

When he's on nights he's usually up around 2.45pm I think as he picks ds up at 3pm. I reckon he took the piss sleeping all day as I was/am here for ds & did. (Who at. 9 & 12 aren't babies or cause me sleepless nights :))

You're right pobble! Though he never works full 12 hours.

Yes, he's healthy, he's a hard worker & it's a manual job.

I just hate the fact he's in another room, sleeping & he's heading to work again at 9pm.

He cooked dinner, he's not lazy, he generally does most cooking. I was off today - Usually I don't know how long he sleeps as I'm not home til 6 & he's up by then

I just think he must be more tired today as he worked Monday night but didn't sleep on Monday day time.
Maybe the tiredness has caught up with him.

Ya think?? Would you be tired if you went to work in the morning after being awake all night? It's the same thing.

Oh. I have no idea how that happened. Cut and paste fail I fear! Sorry!!

:)

He's still asleep.

I'm going to have to pick ds up from his class. I hate it