A mother at my son's nursery has organised a play date at her home with a few of the other parents and their children, I believe there'll be about 5 of us in total. However, this particular child is rather unpleasant, and the mother is not much better.
The child's behaviour is atrocious: he regularly is physically violent to other children, has been sent home from nursery on more than one occasion, and uses vulgar language. The mother does not discipline him, instead choosing to say 'it is a phase that he just needs to grow out of', and instead blames anything and everything else for 'upsetting' or 'overstimulating' him. I know many children do go through a violent/difficult phase, however this particular boy has bitten my DS before, breaking skin, and the mother did not even apologise, and I believe this is perhaps more than a 'phase'.
We have been round to their house before, and it is very dirty - they have two pet dogs that I have seen do their business on the kitchen floor, there is never a place to sit down, and the house reeks of urine and damp. I try not to be judgemental of others' living conditions, however, it is not a pleasant experience.
My little guy is a friendly one, and likes to play with this boy, even if he does get smacked across the head with a toy/bitten/spat at. I do my best to keep them apart, and have asked nursery to do the same, however, my little one is adamant he will speak to him, and play with him. He once used the F word at home, and when I quizzed him about where he had learnt it, he told me "(This boy's name) told me it".
I would really like to avoid this playdate, but the mother told my DS, and now he is excited about it.
AIBU to find something else for us to do that day so we cannot attend?