to kick down my wall every night

[samandkat]

Neighbors been banging up and down stairs they know I have a two year old son that they keep up every night and I'm 16 weeks pregnant we have stated that the noise is upsetting our son but that just made it worse so I have resorted to kicking the wall when they create the nuisance noise

can you move his bed? I feel for you but normal neighbour noise shouldn't affect you this badly....I have next door neighbours who bang about a bit but the DC aren't affected.

Have you gone to environmental health?

I think you're being completely unreasonable.

No I have not gone to any legal authority as I don't think I have much of a leg to stand on

I have his bed at the opposite side of the room but it still disturbs his sleep its bad enough to be herd in all rooms of the house

Is the 'banging up and down the stairs' actually 'walking up and down the stairs'? Maybe you just live in a noisy building? Can't see how kicking the wall would help.

Years ago I lived in a shared house and the neighbours demanded that we stop using the heating - in January - because there was air in the pipes and the noise kept their children awake. I was sorry to hear that, but their request was unreasonable so we didn't comply with it. Perhaps your neighbours feel the same and don't want to stop using their stairs!

You mean you can hear them moving around their house?
That's hardly anti-social behaviour - it just comes from living in a terrace / semi

I have been there with noisy neighbours so I feel your pain but it sounds like they are doing normal stuff so arguably and rationally may not be all their fault. Kicking the wall is aggressive and would suggest you have lost it which considering what you are dealing with is somewhat understandable. I suggest that you write to them avery nice letter ie sorry I am knackered can I ask you to carpet the stairs and walk up them as the sound proofing is crap. Then ask landlord or if you own it look at soundproofing by adding an additional wall in. It will cost money but it sounds as if it will be well worth it. Or if the sound is that bad think about moving property to save your sanity. Are any of these helpful?

It depends what the noise is? If its just normal living in a house noise then yes yabu but if its not then.... Perhaps not.

I can't hear any other activities in my neighbor's house and the banging of there stairs is as if I was jumping down my own in heavy boots and no carpet and yes I'm just at the end of my tether with them as the seem to do it purposely

I was very noise sensitive when pregnant...just saying.

If they have no carpet on stairs, children etc then it may be loud.

Who would be arsex to do it in purpose?

My floorboards moving (I tiptoe but they are VERY loose) apparently sound like me folding an ironing board or buggy then dropping it on the floor during the night After me getting a rug and still getting repeated arsey letters I invited her up and she agreed there was no way to avoid it bar not moving!

I'm not so much as noise sensitive as they have done this for about a month or so before I became pregnant also I don't have the money to just up and leave as and when I feel like it I don't feel comfortable with writing them a letter ether and like I said they SEEM to do it purposely I really don't know why they would as I'm always quiet even in the day and they only do this at night

Oh I don't know.

They're not doing it on purpose.

You need to look into sound proofing. Consider swapping rooms with your son as presumably you will be up later so there will be less walking up and down stairs when you are in bed.

Or yes, move. You can't tell them to stop using their stairs. Hearing noises from other houses is just a feature of some houses and if you can't deal with it you need to go elsewhere.

Me and my toddler are woken up early every morning by my neighbours hair dryer so I have to be up much earlier than I'd like because my toddler doesn't go back to sleep. You just have to deal with it though. My neighbours put up with a crying baby I'm not going to tell them they can't dry their hair. If I couldn't deal with it I'd just have to move.

Jeez I'm sorry but YABVU.

When your toddler makes noise that disturbs them...and when the new baby cries in the night, how would you like them to make screaming noises on the other side of the wall?

They're not blasting their TV or music, so I think you need to exercise a bit of tolerance.

Probably because they're out, at work or downstairs during the day. Think about it. Upstairs is bedrooms and bathrooms, you don't need to go up there that much in the day.