AIBU to be so upset about this note left on my lovely MIL's car?

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My MIL comes to look after our 2 year old twins for half the week. Today she found this note left on her car:

Your parking is very inconsiderate. You leave huge gaps between your car and others making it hard to park. My children need to go to school and should be able to park outside our own house in the mornings. Please learn to park better! Annoyed neighbour

For the record I don't think she leaves huge gaps between cars (you need to leave some gap of course!). And no one owns the parking space on the road outside their house (we have people parking out the front of our house all the time and don't think anything of it)

Anyway, I'm probably feeling unreasonably upset on her behalf!

YANBU - assuming she wasn't blocking anyone in. That's horrid.

Anyone cunty enough to leave an anonymous note can routinely be ignored.

Wanker.

Ewwww to the note.

Why don't you write a note suggesting her children walk to school?

I would be inclined to throw it in the bin and forget about it, if she is happy with how she parks and she isn't leaving big gaps...

Some people are very precious about on street parking etc, it is a very touchy subject but unfortunately, like you say, neither them, or you, own the road so just ignore :)

Did they actually sign it Annoyed neighbour?

Do you know who wrote the note? I'd be having a word.

You must lead a very sheltered life to find that upsetting tbh.

It's a complaint about her parking- not a death threat.

Yes we have a fair idea who it is! Will try to have a chat to them about it (which is what they should have done with us in the first place!)

yes I can be oversensitive it's true! I'm actually not really upset, probably should have said cross/miffed.

Anonymous note leavers should be ignored - tossers.

But just out of curiosity, where is this person's car parked that they have to drive it to their front door to pick up their own children every morning?

YABabitU. Poor parkers are really annoying and if you leave a name it just becomes a bit battle. I bet she'll be more thoughtful about her parking in future! And you are being U to assume lovely people don't ever need correcting.

I would write a note for your MILs car for when she parks in exactly the same place tomorrow saying 'get stuffed, annoyed neighbour, from justifiably narked neighbour'.
Folk park outside my house all the time. No laws to say they can't. If I was to let it piss me off to the extent I was leaving snippy notes, I'd be dead by now.
Hopefully annoyed neighbour will live and learn.

Anonymous notes are shitty, but it does bug me when we can't park anywhere near our house because others have parked leaving large gaps between cars. But then you say she doesn't so YANBU there either.

I was wondering that runningonwillpower
However, I do need to say that if you regularly can't park near your house, then it is very frustrating, and would be doubly so if you note that by people parking closer together, you would be able to, so - obviously without seeing the parking - I can understand the neighbour's frustration if this is the case.

Haha! Surely you'd have a right laugh at ignore this and never give it a second thought?!

That's the thing though, she's not a poor parker. But yes I know that lovely people aren't always beyond reproach.

runningonwillpower - I did wonder that myself...

oh if my mil had a nite like that I would be knocking in the neighbours door,( unless your mil does park like a loon)

nice to read a mil/dil supportive post.

In the grand scheme of things yes it's nothing, really just wanted to know if others thought it was a twatty way for them to go about things

I hope you still have the note.

Just move it onto another neighbour's car - preferably a really stroppy aggressive one who won't just ignore it and will take nasty neighbour to task.

It's a bit annoying when people park like that. But to leave a note is cowardly. A friendly chat would do it - if you care that much, which I don't.

How horrible,I had a shitty note left on my car once which really shook me up.
Tube engineering works meant I had to drive to an overground station I never usually use as my usual options weren't available.
I parked on the street twice,no intention of going back again,but as I had to pay extra for the train I couldn't really justify nearly £10 a day to park at the station.
On returning to the car on the second day a charming note telling me to fucking pay for the car park and if I ever parked in front of the house again my windows would be smashed and tyres slashed as they were waiting and watching me.
I cried all the way driving home.
Also old neighbours in flat above me left a shitty note asking for my 'eyesore' freezer to be moved out of sight,it was on a communal landing outside my flat,only my flat on that floor,they would have seen it only when entering and exiting the building.
It was outside waiting to be collected by the landlord to be disposed of,I think they came within 3 days,and as I had only just moved in thought they could have given me a little time before writing notes.
I stuck a huge note on the freezer on telling them to come snd knock on my door if they wanted to discuss it further rather than leaving me anonymous notes about something that was being collected by our landlord within days.
Funny they never did,however they did come and complain about my music-7pm one Sunday night-I replied that I had to turn up my music because it drowned out the constant arguing,stomping around in heels on a wooden floor and ridiculous noises when they were having sex.
Never spoke to us again!

What's the matter with these cowardly note leavers? It is your neighbour who presumably knows it is someone in your house that is parking there.

If she has a problem, why not knock and have a friendly word? A shitty note is only going to upset it antagonise.

I don't get people.

Ooh brilliant idea dozeydoris too much of a coward though

And another thing!

Have they considered that the parking situation may have been different when your mother-in-law actually parked?

I know that I've parked next to huge vehicles leaving a reasonable amount of space. But when the huge vehicle moves, there is room for a car and a half.

You have to see the situation as it happens to comment fairly.

Woah ptpan that's awful!

Stick up a sign saying...

I'm legally parked - get over it.

and just ignore them, because yes, it's twatty of them to leave that if she's parked fine, even if she wasn't they should have spoken to you or her, not left an anonymous note.