Is it me?

[hamptongirl13]

Hello,

My relationship is totally breaking down. There are control issues his side and moodyness my side. But i wanted to get an opinion on this: his mother is constantly round our house every weekend. She comes at 10 - has a afternoon nap and leaves at 7 at night. This weekend she came round on Friday night (cooked herself tea) Saturday as normal and then to one of my sons rugby match and my other sons football match. When she is around she totally domiates my partner - leaving me feeling like a total outsider. When I stated "she may as well move in" to my son and he told his dad - we had a row because "its just because she cares" - Is it me?

Sorry meant to say watched rugby match Sunday morning and footballmatch sunday afternoon.

It's not you. He needs to cut the placenta and tell his mum to give your family some space. I'd go insane if my own mum was around that much never mind my MIL. Stuff of nightmares!

No it's not you. It's her and your dh but you will need to be the one to change it.

YANBU that is way too much! Tell you're going out for the entire weekend and he can deal with the kids and his mum. She is totally overstepping and your DH needs to man up.

Thanks for the support guys - he has put my family off visiting me so they would never dream of dropping in. I thought bit much but when raised get its because she cares - she also comes on hoilday with us for a week and when we had a weekend away to watch fireworks - she came as well!!!!!

Bloody hell OP you're a saint!

I can only put up with my own mother for a day and my MIL it's until she opens her mouth.

What do you mean he has put your family off visiting?

You ANBU.This sounds rather unhealthy to me.Did you know that she'd be like this before you got into your relationship?

Get out now. Things won't get better. He's already isolating you from your family by making them not welcome.

My boyfriend is one of three so not a only child - his sister has children as well. He is a controlling dominated so and so. I am in debt because on a part time wage - I had to pay half and half of bills. I am currently seeking accomdation from the council as totally mental abuse. I posted this post as I wanted to see if it was me over reacting about the time she spends with us as he is making.

Run very fast away from this relationship. I can not believe doing that to my son and his partner and nor would I want to. How bizarre

You are not over-reacting at all

You said you were looking to get new accommodation, are you leaving him? Do you need to talk a bit more about what's going on with you and him rather than the affect his mother has on your relationship?

I'm happy to listen and chat and I'm sure others are too.

tell him until you move out he can visit her in her house!

oh and have your family round all the time

You are not over reacting. This is way too much. Good luck in making your escape.

Thanks for the support - he is not talking to me and guess what on count down to Friday for latest visit!! I think I need to accept its gone dead and move on (he has asked me to leave him - its his house -long story but we combined a flat and house to get a low mortgage in his name only - but I dont care he can have it) - I'm glad I found this board and had your support. The boys are bit older now 13 & 11 and I wont cause drama about them and access, so may stay with a friend till get my own place for us.
He is a bully and I'm fed up of always being in the wrong over any little thing. xxx thanks guys