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AIBU to be annoyed at my sister

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Carriemoo · 25/11/2013 20:21

Ok a little backstory my grandma on my dads side lives opposite my mum and dad. She is disabled but can do a lot of things herself so isnt able to have carers come in - there isnt any funding available.

Mum asked me a few months ago if i would stay at theirs for 3 weeks so they could go on a much needed long haul holiday, if i couldnt stay they couldnt go. I said yes on the provision my sister helps. My sister lives abroad and the help i was talking about was a phone call twice a week on nights i couldnt get there to make sure she had eaten and there wasnt any issues. My mums house is a hour and a half from my work so there was a lot of extra travel for me.

i spoke to sister on Friday night and she has phoned my grandma once despite me telling her the day that i wouldnt be home till late. My mum and dad come back on Wed. I don't know if im being massively unreasonable but i'm annoyed as i'm shattered getting up at 6am for work every day and not getting home till 8 and she has been no help.

I just feel very grumpy and want to know if i am being unreasonable?

sorry about typos im on my mobile also!

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Finola1step · 25/11/2013 20:43

YANBU. All she had to do was pick up the phone. I hope your parents had a lovely holiday. Take what has happened as an insight into the future. It is time to start thinking about what happens when your own parents are poorly. Some frank discussions may need to happen sooner or later.

IncognitoBurrito · 25/11/2013 21:06

YANBU not fair of your sister at all.

Bettercallsaul1 · 25/11/2013 21:16

No, you are definitely not being unreasonable!

Unfortunately, it happens all too often that one member of the family is left with all the responsibility for elderly relatives while others simply refuse to get involved. It may be exacerbated in your case as your sister lives abroad - she may have distanced herself emotionally as well as physically.

Comfort yourself in knowing that, through your help and effort, your parents have had a well-deserved break that they otherwise couldn't have had. They will come back with their batteries recharged - thanks to you.

You are a wonderful daughter and grand-daughter!

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