To change my baby's name?

[ClaraBarton]

He is three months old

The name was on my short list so it's not as though I was forced into it or chose in a hormonal haze. Just couldn't decide before he was born and then let DH choose from my list on the day.

Next morning I knew it wasn't right. I have obsessed over it for three months.

I never call him by his name. I miss my short list. I miss going through it every day and changing the order round. I call him "baby".

If we changed it (DH will go along with this) will everyone we know think we are bloody bonkers? Will our son find it weird when he's older? Will our older child be thoroughly confused?

Have I left it too long?

My DP goes by his middle name and always has, the first name is a family name that all the men in his family have. It isn't confusing at all.
My gran is also called by her middle name. My mum and my grandad opted to be called by their middle names when adults.

Yes change it, it won't make a difference now but if you leave it longer then it will.

My name was changed when I was 5 months old. A new birth certificate was issued. I only found out as an adult because I queried why the date on the certificate was so much later than my actual birthdate.

We have a friend who's known by two names. Everyone who knew him at school calls him one name (first name on his BC) and his family plus everyone who's known him since his leaving school, call him by his chosen name - think it's his middle name, not quite sure. No one gets confused.
Well, not so long as they know which category they're in.

I did get confused after only ever hearing of late MiL's cousin known as Y.
Met her husband and he asked me why we called X, Y? Apparently MiL was the only person in the world who called her that, but none of the rest of us knew that. Actually I've forgotten now what her real name was

I'd say if you have doubts, change the name and do it now.
I was in a very foggy post delivery situation and let DH choose DC2's name.
I've always regretted it and it's now a very long time later
Makes it even worse that it was on the list for DC1 and rejected, a fact that I hate.

You haven't left it too long, but do you and DH agree on what name to settle on?

I can't tell you the name or the options as it would totally out me.

Would love to though.

So taboo isn't it?

Sometimes children take a while to settle in to their names. With tiny babies a proper name can almost seem to big for them.

My older son was known exclusively by a nickname when he was a baby till he grew in to his name. With my youngest who is still a baby I tend to add baby to the start of his name all the time so he is baby-first name. That is happening less now he is a bit older and growing in to his name. He is nine months now and it is only just starting to feel normal to call him just his name.

If you aren't set in stone on an alternative I would suggest you give it some time to see if the name starts feeling more right as time goes on. A nickname could help as you get used to it.

Naming a person is hard, names that seemed great suddenly don't seem right when you apply them to your own baby.

I changed dd's middle name, you have up until the first year to do it easily.

You can legally reregister with a new name up to 12 months from birth, and get a new birth certificate.

www.solihull.gov.uk/community/changingname.htm

My mother went through 3 christian name changes and you will be surprised the amount of people who are called by their nick name. I would go for the name change it's not too late and if he's an archie and not an arthur then fair enuff.If the cap fits then wear it I say.

spill the beans Clara

Give us a clue OP :)

Or a similarity curious

I spent a few months worrying that I'd given DS2 the wrong name,I think mainly because DS1 suits his name more (probably just because he was older and I'm more used to it), but now he totally owns it.

But everyone else is right, no proper advice can be given until we know the name.