To not invite friends son to DS's party ?

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DS's birthday in December, will be 8. I have a close friend (been on holiday together, socialise together etc)who's DS goes to same school but is in different class to DS. I'm limited to numbers due to cost per head. DS and friends DS are not close, different personalities etc. DS doesn't want friends DS to come to party. Can I just be honest with friend and say I've let son decide who he wants at his party and am limited with numbers or do I just invite friends DS to save bad feeling. One of the children DS wants to come is a twin and he only wants the one in his class to come, again, am fairly friendly with the mum. I personally wouldn't have a problem with any of this...been there done that with elder teen DS but surely at 8 it should be up to DS ? Help !

All sounds ridiculously petty and trivial written down ....just that friend can be a bit OTT about anything to do with her DS and I don't want her to make a big deal of it or read anything into lack of invite, cheers

I think you go with who your ds wants to invite. It's HIS party and the numbers are limited, why should he have to not invite one of his friends in order to invite this other lad.
I think I'd take the coward's way and just not mention it to your friend though, unless she specifically asks, then I'd be very vague!

YANBU. At 8 I think it should be upto the Birthday child who they invite. I let my 5 year old choose who he wants at his parties. This year he chose not to invite a very close friend of mines dd mainly because she throws a tantrum and cries whenever he plays with anyone else. My friend was fine about it, I just mentioned limited numbers and told her he had chosen his guests. Most parents wouldn't mind as there's usually plenty parties throughout the year.

Sounds fine. If asked say its class mates only.