To think my sisters being ungrateful?

[Mummytotwox]

This year we are skint. We are struggling to buy even our kids Xmas pressies.

I have brought my sister two books £15 and iv made her a photo collage of our wedding photos, and photos of her niece n nephew. I thought it was a lovely idea. I have done the same for dad, and in laws.

I messaged her today asking if I brought her pjs what size would I get, she said "I don't want pjs". Okay.

She then said "I thought you was giving me cash".. Ermm nope, I never said I would.

She then asked me what iv got her. I said I'm not telling, she said "it best not be choc or a cd".

I told her what I got her.

She said ahh that's lovely...

I jokingly message "your thinking that's it arnt ya lol"

She put "yeah you cheapskate, lol just joking, it's lovely"

I know feel like she isn't happy :.(

Is she a child?

If she isn't, and you are skint, why are you buying adult Christmas presents?

The books sound lovely, but tbh I'm not sure about the photo collage unless you know for a fact she would like that? Do you think you could return the books and give her the cash instead?

And why are you telling her what you got her? Is it not meant to be a surprise ?

She doesn't need pjs and books and she's ungrateful. Ignore

The best thing I ever did was agree between adult siblings not to exchange Christmas presents, nearly all of us have far too much stuff in our lives and it would save so much anxiety if people just agreed to stop buying presents - or if you really can't do that all agree a £5 budget or do a 'secret santa'.

Well her house is like a gallery of photos of everyone.

I'm not buying my other sister, but this sister wanted pressents lol.

how about you return the books, give her the collage and make it clear that you do not expect anything in return as from now on you are making a "kids only" present rule.

I have to say I'd rather have nothing than a photo collage of someone elses wedding and kids. But then I'm a known sourpuss.

I'm not buying my other sister, but this sister wanted pressents lol.

No sorry that's not accurate. You bought her present because YOU decided to. Her wanting one doesn't mean you had to buy it. Stop Martyring.

She is being a bit ungrateful, but tbf there's nothing worse than people wasting money they can't afford on presents you don't want when they could stick a tenner in a card and you'd all be happier.

The wedding photos, are photos of ones she's asked for, and of her, and her daughter who was my bridesmaid.And she is super close to my kids.

Out of interest, what sort of present does your sister give you?

If you're skint I just wouldn't do presents for faults this year. My brother asked me last year if we could just buy presents for each other's children because they were short of money, we're doing the same this year. Knowing they're skint I'd rather they spent their money giving their DCs a nice Christmas rather than spending it on presents for us that we don't need tbh

Presents for adults that should have been.

I'm another one who agreed on no adult presents with both sides of the family years ago. As others have already said, it was the best decision we've ever made.

I certainly wouldn't be giving my adult sister money.

Hang on, when you message "your thinking that's it arnt ya lol" you are joking and that's fine, but when she says in direct response to your joke, i.e. picking up on your tone and continuing the banter "yeah you cheapskate, lol just joking, it's lovely," i.e. specifically says that she's joking and tells you for the second time that the present is lovely, you decide that she isn't happy and feel the need to start an AIBU thread on how ungrateful she is?

TBH I'd be a bit at being given pictures of anyone who wasn't my own child or grandchild or Jeremy Renner and told they were my Christmas present, but I like books so I'd have been perfectly happy.

I would text her saying "Look, we are a bit skint this year, we have enough stuff, you have enough stuff, can we just give the presents a miss this year?"

How old is she? I'd tell her she's getting what she's given.

I've just told my two sisters and brother that I'm only buying for my nieces and nephew this year as we are expecting a baby in January so have other priorities for our money. I will buy for the kids and definitely don't expect anything back! Brother and oldest sister are married and other sister is engaged so I'd end up buying for their partners too and it just gets too much. Plus I always end up getting random crap no one even wants just for the sake of it anyway.

Seriously, a photo collage of someone else's wedding

Yes, I'm not sure about the sound of the photo montage. First Christmas after our wedding we did give a couple of friends framed photos of themselves taken at our wedding, which they were delighted with.

"I thought you was giving me cash?"

It's WERE.

And doesn't sound like there's much pleasure in it for you to be honest, so perhaps you should agree not to buy for one another! Save the money for your own children.

What is she giving you ?