To tell my dd the truth about Father Christmas?

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My dd is 10 and she truly believes.

Last year parents talked to their children in her class so as not to ruin it for her, nothing to do with me I should say, some friends told me about it later.

The problem is everyone in her year are non believers and everyone knows that my dd believes. She is not a naive girl and people find it astonishing.

The problem is I keep imagining Sue from the middle who gives a presentation on unicorns to the whole class, then being furious with her parents for not telling her they didn't exist.

Is it time to tell her?

lilacroses I think the period comment was obvious as dies the op.

I was the poster that also mentioned believing in God.

op your dd sounds lovely and hope the telling goes well when ever you feel its appropriate.

she will still find it magical I am sure.

My dd are 23 and 16. We have not had any conversation regarding FC being real or not. Stockings are put out, carrots and sherry etc left on the hearth. I trample mud into the carpet every year and they exclaim that Rudolph must have been thirsty as he drank all the water and Santa must be tipsy as he drank all the booze every Christmas morning. Heck I even believe and I am Santa!

I'd start talking about the 'spirit' of Christmas. How we all embody a bit of FC at this time of year, exchanging gifts, being generous with our time and thinking of others in our family and around the world. Go to Oxfam buy some Christmas bits and say to DD ' that's us being FC to some children in the Philippines this year' and talk about giving in the context of the origins of Christmas (celebrating birth of Jesus).
Buy one of those cheap kids books on traditions of Christmas round the world, so she understands that others have different FC figures but its still magical and special.

If she asks outright you could explain it to her in the context of all of the above. The taking of one day out of a busy year to demonstrate love with family and friends, to feast together and share the good things in life is the magic of Christmas and that is something we can all believe in. So yes in a sense FC is real but he's not one person he's in all of us when we are kind and generous to others.

A while back someone posted a link to an article which was a lovely more down to earth explanation, a letter from and anerican mother to daughter. Someone will post it I'm sure .

ihatemrtumble Very true.

thebody She is really lovely and my last so im torn between keeping her young IYSWIM and not holding her back.

Personally i'd happily carry her around in my pocket all day every day if i could. Not sure its very good parenting though

Lovely post OhMerGerd thank you

Hope someone comes along with that link!

My ds was 10 just before last Xmas and he still def believed but we knew most of his classmates didn't. We decided to leave it for one more Xmas and I'm glad we did, just a tiny bit of magic for him.
After and before he went back to school we sat down together and told him Santa wasn't real, he did cry but we were worried he might get the mickey taken out of him talking about what Santa had brought him.
So I would let her believe for one last Christmas.