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To get irritated with friend who keeps offering un-asked for opinions on everything?

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Murfszy · 23/11/2013 17:38

And then gets cross when I don't do as she says?

I've known her for several years, our DDs are best friends, and she prides herself on her 'honesty', when in actual fact her honesty is giving opinions where they're not asked for, going on and on about 'her' point of view, trying to railroad me into doing as she says, and generally being very nosey and prying.

A few months ago I won a few toys in a competition, and gave them to the DCs straight away. When my 'friend' found out that I'd done this, she kept saying I was silly, and that I should have put them away to use as Xmas presents, and then coming up with all kinds of ways that I could still use them as Xmas presents, even though I hadn't asked for her opinion or advice on anything!

Another time I saw her on the morning school run and she asked what I was up to that day and I said that I was going to the hairdressers. She then immediately started offering advice on what she thought I should do with my hair. Along the lines of 'get them to put a dye over your blonde highlights then have a good 4 or 5 inches chopped off'. Of course, I took no notice and didn't do as she said, and then at school pick up in the afternoon she berated me for not doing as she'd said and started suggesting I phoned up the hairdressers and asked them to fit me in again later that afternoon and 'just have another few inches off'.

Honestly, I could go on and on. I want to scream every time I talk to her at the moment.

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Finola1step · 23/11/2013 20:15

What a total pain in the backside. She must drain all the sense of joy out of life.

But I do wonder what she is like with her daughter. Or will be like through the teenage years.

snooter · 23/11/2013 20:20

Aargh I couldn't bear this! I'd probably lose my temper with her: "Will you please stop trying to tell me what to do? It's driving me nuts!"

zatyaballerina · 23/11/2013 21:50

yanbu and I agree with everything TheArmadillo said, I have the same rule, it works.

tudorqueen · 23/11/2013 22:03

Does she do this with other people? Sounds a nightmare.

Murfszy · 24/11/2013 20:38

Yeah I think she does it to others too; she's not a very well liked person and is well known for being a bit of a gossip and for being very pushy.

Thanks for the replies and suggestions. I'm going to start being more vague with her and if she carries on then I'll have to be a bit more verbally forceful

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puntasticusername · 24/11/2013 21:25

Wow, she sounds like a real treasure Hmm

You could try giving her a taste of her own medicine - suddenly start offering her advice on all sorts of personal matters. Start with her weight, or dress sense, or her children's behaviour maybe Grin see what she thinks of it...

foslady · 24/11/2013 21:35

If she's so keen on honesty, I suggest you tell her that you find her outlook so refreshing, you're going to be the same - so you HONESTLY think she can stivck her views where the sun don't shine because you'll HONESTLY do what you want.......

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