My little sister is nearly 30 and we both have dc. We live fairly close by and see each other maybe once or twice a fortnight as we both work (me from home and her out of the home) and our DC (who are the same age, 8) have sleepovers maybe every other month.
I got a fb message yesterday from her at 5pm which said "DS wants to sleepover. can he please?" I said no because I have a lot of work this weekend and also last night we would be out until 21:30 at a school choir thing with DD.
I got an almost identical message at 10am today which I couldn't reply to straight away and by the time I checked again an hour later she had resent it 4 times. I said no because like I said I have lots of work to do (on top of this OH isn't keen after a long week at work and just wants to relax, not babysit) and also dd's room has furniture out everywhere because we are waiting for her new bed to arrive so we have been gutting it out to get rid of bits to make space - its just not convenient for us.
She has just got arsey with me saying that she had dd over last month (they have a baby so despite me saying it was a bad idea in the first place she insisted and then spent the entire time shushing them...) so it was my turn and it had to be in the next 2 weeks...
I told her to go away before I lost my temper. I think its just plain rude to ask in the first place and he should wait to be invited so am a bit pissed off that she facilitated that by sending the message but really it IS inconvenient otherwise I would have said yes!!