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AIBU?

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To NOT want to take my CPN's advice?

9 replies

ccsays · 22/11/2013 09:29

Bit of background: I got a referral to perinatal mental health services as my Mum has bipolar and suffered bad post natal depression which apparently puts me at increases risk of post natal psychosis and depression. I've suffered from anxiety since my late teens and this increases in times of stress.

The CPN keeps trying to talk me into tapping/emotional freedom technique which is loosely based on acupuncture techniques and follows the ideas that negative emotions are 'trapped energies' the body and you can release them by tapping on certain acupressure points.

From the tapping.com website:

How Tapping Works

Before you read this, realise that you don't need to know precisely how Tapping works...You will still be left with unanswered questions after reading this explanation...You don't really know how electricity works - no-one really does

'No one knows how electricity works' ARGH. And:

The biggest thing that puts people off Tapping is that they see it as a little bit New Age. It's funny to me, as someone who studied science at Cambridge University, I find it perfectly scientific

Hmm Hmm Hmm

She keeps telling me that 'ok, there's not that the science behind it' but that she's 'seen it work for enough people to know it works' and the great thing about it is that 'you don't have to believe in it for it to work’.

I've tried to say that while it might seem to work for some people, I think that's more likely the calming effect of distraction/ritual rather than unblocking negative energies. I did try it many years ago and found it managed to distract me for five minutes but didn't have any long term effects and didn't think it was particularly effective. When I say this, she repeats what I've said above and tbh seems to be getting a bit narky that I think it's bullshit.

AIBU to want to tell her that in more forceful terms and to stop trying to get me to do it because I think it's a load of woo?

OP posts:
Nanny0gg · 22/11/2013 09:34

Could you just smile, nod, and ignore?

However, is she pushing her own agenda here? Which presumably is a bit of a no-no? Can you ask to change who you see?

CharlotteBronteSaurus · 22/11/2013 09:34

YANBU
she needs to work collaboratively with you to find things that work for you
why would you give two hoots if works for other people, if it doesn't work for you?

SomethingkindaOod · 22/11/2013 09:36

As a fully paid up member of the woo club this looks like a load of cobblers to me...
I think what you suggest about ritual and distraction is right, I would imagine that the same affect could be achieved by using breathing techniques and meditation. Which you don't need to 'invest' $40 in...

CharlotteBronteSaurus · 22/11/2013 09:39

I think would probably approach this by saying while you're not interested in "tapping", you would definitely like to find out more about guided relaxation/exercise therapy/support groups/CBT/whatever, so that she does get the point that you're interested in receiving help, just not that particular bollocks kind of help.

Admittedly you shouldn't have to do that, though. A good CPN should have a whole bag of different tools to use in different situations.

LEMisafucker · 22/11/2013 09:40

Tell her that you don't think it will work for you, end of story - she is not doing her job properly if she is forcing something onto you that you don't want to do. As someone that suffers from anxiety myself i can totally understand why you wouldn't want to do this.

ccsays · 22/11/2013 09:44

To be fair to her, she did send me out a Glenn Harrold hypnosis CD (which I didn't find very relaxing as he sounds like Danny Dyer) and offered to send me a relaxation worksheet. I suppose I'm just a bit pissed off that she's pushing something that doesn't have any evidence based research behind it then making me feel like I'm the one being unreasonable.

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SomethingkindaOod · 22/11/2013 09:50

Grin at sounding like Danny Dyer, I actually have a guided meditation cd I will gladly give you if you want to look into something like that, the bloke has a really nice soothing voice.. Smile
However this CPN needs to understand that this tapping thing makes you personally feel uncomfortable and stop banging on about it. Do you have to see her or can you ask to see someone else?

eurochick · 22/11/2013 09:54

A friend of mine has a chronic pain disorder. She was on a cocktail of drugs. She has been tapping (among other things) and is now off all of them. Somehow it does work for her.

My view is that it costs nothing and might help so it's probably worth giving it a go for more than 5 minutes.

TEEARDIS · 22/11/2013 09:58

Stand your ground. She's suppose to help you, not berate you.

I always refuse CBT, for example, as it never works for me and I think it's a bunch of tosh. My CPN respects that and helps me find my own coping mechanisms for my anxiety and agoraphobia.

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