to think skinny shaming is as bad as fat shaming

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My 14 year old dd is verry tall and thin, she allways has been, and recently she has been having some problems with this. People in school everyday making remarks telling her to eat and calling her anorexic. The other day she was in town with some friends and some girls she had never met shouting at her to eat some burgers. This often results in tears and is making ger very body concious. Howver if she says anything back to anyone she simply gets 'were on about you being skinny god whats wrong with you'. We have spoken to the school as this is really affecting her, however they only said to us that the girls were proberly intednding the remarks to be a complement and havent done anything. Aibu to think this is just as bad as if you are calling somebody out for being overwight, and if she was the scholl would have done more about this by now?

YANBU. It's still bullying.

I was the same 25years ago :(
Daughter heading the same way. No answer but watching with interest.

YANBU.

School are knobs.

It's still bullying.

Yanbu.

I highly doubt the school would do better for a young person that was overweight. It's likely the attitude you're describing would carry on - likely turned into 'trying to help them be healthy'. Some people will do anything to downplay bullying. When I was a similar age, I had the school nurse getting in on the bullying about it and spreading rumours while she enforced weighing and lunch checks on me. I would check to see if any of the adults in power are having any influence in this.

They're failing in their duties and allowing a harmful environment to continue and it's obviously very painful. I know it was for me. I would focus on that rather than feeling that this would be any better if your child was overweight because fat shaming tends to have far higher consequences that shouldn't be ignored.

they don't like to be picked out for anything at that age if it isn't 100% complimentary.
Expecting a 14yo to grow a thick skin is like expecting pigs to fly, of course.

its all bullying . its ALL body shaming. School needs to buck their ideas up.

I don't think anyone should be ridiculed about their appearance whether overweight, fat, thin, skinny, blue, spotty, stripy... Makes no difference, appearance is a personal thing and any negative comments can be very hurtful. I think this is true of any age but particularly so in the teenage years when everything is heightened and intense emotionally.

I suspect it is difficult for a school to police every teenager's comments (and they are notoriously cruel to one another). However, in a situation where the girl in question is being significantly affected you would think they would want to at least try.

Body shaming is bad in any form OP

It also annoys me when people say in a matter of fact manner about thin people, "she has no boobs".

No only is that totally incorrect, but it often makes the thin person feel totally unfeminine.