"Didn't want to read & run/can offer no advice but.../hopefully better informed posters will be along soon/blah blah...

[Botanicbaby]

Jeez. So you 'didn't want to read & run'; and you can 'offer no useful advice'; and you 'hope that more experienced posters will be along soon'; yadda yadda.

Just don't post yet (at least you could wait until the 'more knowledgable' posters have commented) It's not compulsory to comment asap. You can express sympathy/acknowledgment/recognition/all of the above without resorting to a catch all, ineffective 'can't read & run' bleat?

I think the OP gets it now.

Sorry. I just wanted to try out that smiley.

Would be a bit rude to just say "bump" and then run off, like you were literally just bumping into somebody, if you can see they are in obvious distress, but you have NO idea what to say to make it better.

Gives OP a for reasonable behaviour.

Yabu

Well done OP for taking the YABUs so well and graciously retracting

If no-one replies, when you are very sad and shouted into the abyss, those responses acknowledge that your voice has been heard.

Threads complaining about how some people choose to post are far to popular on MN. Some people communicate in a way that others wouldn't. That's ok in my book.

There's nothing worse then no one replying to your thread. I think this is a nice way of bumping it and telling someone they aren't alone.

If someone in RL starts talking to you about a problem and you have no helpful suggestions you don't stare at them blankly refusing to even murmur some support do you?

thanks to all who have posted replies. I really 'do' get it now. Sorry if I came across as completely insensitive to some of you.

I know now that I was being unreasonable in my OP; the timing of threads and replies on here must be quite crucial in some cases. Lesson well & truly learned.

(was a stupid thing to get irked about tbh, I realise the mumsnet audience is bloody huge -& local forums mostly only get replies from a minority, who may or crucially, may not, have relevant experience too)

You really 'do' get it now.

No-one makes their own rules either Botanic. Its a free board. Do you get that?

monty27 I don't really understand your post.

Its a free board, yes. I can't come along and 'make up my own rules' about who posts what on here. Same as you really.

Just because I've asked a pretty crappy question about mumsnet and am now in a better position to understand the reasons why people post on threads that they themselves admit to having no practical advice for the OP, does not mean that I make 'my own rules' on here.

Do you get that too?

Oh, ffs, stop being so stroppy

I love a poster who admits to being U

for OP

Time of the month, ladies?

Always Ultra anyone?

Only if they're delicately fragranced nombre

+can opened, worms everywhere+

OP Any thoughts on 'marking place'.....(she says as she shamelessly marks place to see how this pans out).

RIP Nombre. I hope you lived a long and pleasant life.

Would be a bit rude to just say "bump" and then run off, like you were literally just bumping into somebody, if you can see they are in obvious distress, but you have NO idea what to say to make it better.

I don't think so. I think thats ok.

nombre

Botanic so you can't take being wrong graciously?

Actually you have a point...in ye olden days, when it was just fields round here, sometimes posters would do this to bump threads in the unanswered threads tab and I would sometimes do this myself. However, I was advised that leaving it unanswered is often the better thing to do, so that anyone with knowledge of that subject clicking on unanswered threads would see it as opposed to it being slightly bumped into obscurity...ie not active, yet gone from unanswered...

But you know YABU to tell people what to post!

I do it. I state that I am no use but I will bump so it doesn't get forgotten. That's only if it hasn't had any replies.

It doesn't harm anyone and it tends to draw people in

I assumed it was the op going back to their original name (after a name change) so the thread would appear in the "I'm on" bit...