to not see the funny side to this email?

[ThereWasOnceAGirl]

Or have I just no sense of humour?

I've been off work since Monday, came in today and going through the emails I missed and there was one from the new guy on the first day I wasn't in work saying -

I really missed you today. I find you really attractive.

I was slightly taken aback, hes a nice guy and I've been helping to train him and he's been sending me the odd email - such as how are you? etc so not of the ordinary to have an email from him but I don't fancy him in the slightest.

I just emailed back along the lines of thank you, very nice of you etc.

He then came up to me and apologised as he hadn't sent it and a guy "Ben" who sits next to him sent it when he was helping him with a problem and he hadn't realised. Almost certain he wasn't lying.

I asked Ben why he sent it and the reply I got was - "shits and giggles"

Aibu to think this wasn't funny and could have made me look like a complete fool and could have been quite humilated, because the email doesn't come across as an obvious joke.

Are you sure you don't fancy the new guy and were a tiny bit disappointed? Your reply seems odd.

When I was heavily pregnant I left my screen unlocked and a colleague sent an email to about 5 male colleagues saying "I believe you may be the father of my baby".

I have to confess I did find the whole thing funny.

But I think if you are a bit po faced about it then it encourages people more as that's the reaction they want. Just roll your eyes and forget it.

I would have laughed at that one actually SeaSickSal, original ones can still raise a smile. I'm not as jaded as I thought (thanks!).

I had something similar yesterday, the day before I noticed one of my staff "A" had left her log in card in so I took it out and gave it to "B" telling her to remind "A" not to do this. Later on "A" did it again and "B" sent an email from "A"'s account to me telling me "you smell" as a lesson apparently to "A".

I despair at the maturity of some of my staff and the security sense of others.

Eirikur is right- that sort of behaviour is classified in employment law as sexual harassment. Ben would be in serious trouble if you put in a formal complaint.

I had to do a course in equality legislation type stuff at one point, and one of the worked examples started off in a similar way. It isn't a question of not having a sense of humour, Ben is definitely way out of order and should know what is and isn't appropriate behaviour at work.

just because it is commonplace in a lot of workplaces doesn't make it not sexual harassment. Some people still act as though its the 1970s- it isn't.

Jean, how is the answer to that question relevant either way?

Weird that some people get this all the time at work

It's a workplace not a playground full of 15 year olds. You shouldn't have replied. If it happens again forward it to your manager.

sexual harrassment? for one jokey email? have a word with yourselves.

laugh it off op its not really a big deal. if it happened again i might.mention it to my manager otherwise i would leave it

This happens at my work too. I've had all sorts of random messages sent from my PC when I've forgotten to lock it - punishment you see.
We all laugh it off but then we are a lighthearted bunch and it helps pass the day!