To expect him to cash my cheque?!!

[Primadonnagirl]

I have family other end of country who we see a couple of times a year. We've long stopped doing presents , except for big occasions. six months ago my nephew turned eighteen so I sent a cheque in a card. Not v imaginative I know but I couldn't think of anything else plus thats what I did for his sister. Now his parents are quite comfortably off so I doubt he needed the cash but that's not the point. However, whats really irking me is he hasn't cashed it yet. He's definitely got it ..although I never got a thank you..cos his Mum told me. I've reminded them but it still hasn't been cashed. Now apart from the fact that I have to keep remembering its still I my account ( I'm usually down to zero at mend of month!) I think it's really rude and ungrateful..like rejecting my present. Or AIBU.? I don't really feel comfortable saying I need it to go out in case I forget and go overdrawn

Put it in an envelope, post it to your bank. Sorted.

I would feel very hurt if I sent someone a cheque and they never cashed it.

I do this to my Mum because I never remember to take the things with me when I'm near a bank on a week day and our bank isn't open on Sat, when I am in town for DC stuff.

We sent niece and nephew a cheque each last Xmas. His was cashed in Jan, hers in August. Banks are useless with cheques now in my opinion, I think they are being crapper and crapper in the hope that we will stop using them.

After a birthday recently DH picked up a couple of cheques sent by relatives and deposited them. All good until I asked where was the cheque I was delivering, for a club I was chairman of, to pay for a coach trip Luckily the club were ok about it but the bank just said they don't check cheques any more.

Teeb, I don't find it a chore or inconvenience to go put free cash into my bank account!

I don't think 6 weeks is that long actually. You do have to go out of your way to cash a cheque - I'm not saying that as a negative just a reason why he may not have done it yet. Also if his parents are wealthy and you are not he may feel guilty about cashing it so may decide not to. It's not a personal affront however you look at it.

Six weeks isn't very long for an 18 year old to sit on a cheque. Maybe he doesn't know what to do with it; that sounds daft but my teenaged DC aren't very used to cheques and had to have the paying in process explained to them the first time round.

Don't feel rejected. Just remind him to cash the cheque. Or ask your sister to remind him.

Sparkling, I think it worked on the basis that when cheques nearer the end of the book were cashed they sent you a new one, not that any particular one had to be cashed.

I would be more annoyed by the lack of thanks - are you sure he got it or do you think his mum just said yes he got it because she felt uncomfortable saying he hasn't?

Postal order in future?
Do they still do them?
I am jealous of someone so wealthy that they cant be arsed to take money!
and a bit cross that someone can be so ignorant that they treat someones gift to them with contempt.

actually, screw the postal order, id take him at his word and just send the ungrateful little sod a card in future!

It would take me that long. I dont Even own a cheque book so the rush wouldn't occur to me. I would just transfer money instantly.
I don't live that close to a bank and its he opposite direction to work so the only time I could go would be Saturday 9-12. I'm usually busy then also so the detour wouldn't happen.

I don't think Iv been in a bank for at least 2 years!

Can you get his mum to destroy the cheque and then send one to her so she can give him the "ready spenders".

I know it isn't the point but at least he will get the money, it will clear the uncashed cheque situation and then next time it can be "note to self...don't bother again!"

By the way, you can still receive a new cheque book but you may have to ring up to trigger the process manually. You could mention that cheque 12345 was cancelled, but I don't think it will matter if you didn't.

Should ring up and fib that he needs to cash it in as you're changing bank accounts. I hate not knowing when money comes out of my bank.

I'd wait a little longer.

I would be very insulted and think it very rude if I sent a cheque as a gift and the recipient didn't bank it because they thought they'd be doing me a favour and knew my financial situation better than me.

Six weeks isn't that long. Presumably in school etc in the week - so that's 6 weekends and other stuff may have happened.

I'm very rarely near the bank (which is in the town)yy. And I won't make a journey and pay parking just to deposit a cheque. So yes, it can often be 2 months plus before I get to the bank.

So yabu i'm afraid.