I KNOW IABU I just wanted to rant a little

[NeverKnowinglyUnderstood]

Mum is always offering to help with the kids but I never ask because it is never straightforward and the cost can sometimes be too much.

Tomorrow I need help in the evening.. she is going to come and help. Perfect.

could she stay over - totally fine of course it is a 25min drive home, she doesn't like driving at night I won't be back until 7.30

she is bringing dad to stay over - lovely not seen him for a while we will have dinner when the kids are in bed.

she is coming at 10.30 tomorrow morning.

so it has wiped out my whole day and night because I need some help for an hour in the evening. ARGH!

I KNOW I am lucky that I have a kind mum, that she is well enough, close enough and willing to help.
rant over

Yes you are lucky - count blessings while you can - I wish my Mum could come and 'pester' me all day

YANBU

I get where you are coming from but it doesn't stop you from BVU!

If all you need is an hour then get yourself a babysitter and pay them a fiver for the trouble.

That doesn't mean that you have to sit and babysit her all day. What were you planning to do tomorrow? Just get on. Hoover around her and put on a wash. Nip out to the shops and ask her to change the beds. If they realise that Thursday is a working day for you then they might not do this again.

YANBU at all, why is she coming in the morning? Why can't you say no thanks? We can't all be humble and grateful all the time.

God that would drive me nuts!
Couldn't your dad drive them both home???
Or you pick them up & drive them home?

I absolutely know where you're coming from & yes it would, and did, drive me to distraction.
'Did' being the important word.

Really sorry, that's so patronising cos I know if she was still here I'd still be moaning

bella I know you are right and if it wasn't during bed time/ bath time I would have asked our lovely babysitter but I know DS1 isn't comfortable showering and changing whilst she is here. (has just discovered modesty)

I love her to bits, and I will have to get on, but I know there will be snipey remarks about how I am doing things and how come I didn't do it today so I could spend time with them.