To want a night out every so often now?

[WarmToesChillyNose]

Up until now I haven't really minded, but DD is 12 months now, and I haven't had a break, day or night. She doesn't sleep through, but will usually settle back to sleep after a bit of chattering to herself/winging, though about 2-3 nights a week she needs a cuddle to get back to sleep.
I really want a night out and to just be myself again for a bit, and my parents could babysit, and have offered to, but they have also made me feel like I'm being really selfish.
My DM was saying along the lines of "Well if you need time away from her we love spending time with her, but are you sure it's worth it just for a night out when she might wake up upset, you have plenty of time for yourself when she's a bit bigger." so on (She didn't leave me or my sister with anyone except our dad until we went to school)
AIBU to want a night out once every month/2 now? Is that a lot?
Is she a bit young still? I'm not really sure when people "normally" start going out.
(I'm a lone parent and 22)

YANBU Everyone deserves a bit of time to themselves. My PIL have my dd once a month or so, to give us a night off, and have done so since she was around 9 months. Shes nearly 3 now and loves her sleepovers at grandma and grandad's. However, does sound like your DM would be babysitting reluctantly, be careful it doesn't cause any problems between you.

I think she'd be happy to, she loves seeing DD and is always asking to meet up to see her, I think it's more that she thinks I'm being a bad mum by wanting to be away from her because it's so different to what she did.

Hi Warm. Wanting a night out every now is not something to feel guilty about. DP and I have gone out for dinner, theatre, talks or to spend time with friends since DD was two months old. We are lucky to have DP's brothers and his mum and dad who are always happy to hang out with DD for a couple of hours here and there.

Who looks after her when you're at work? Perhaps they could help.Shame that your mum can't be more helpful,I love babysitting my 3 DGC < not all at once though >

She comes with me as I work as a nanny 3 days a week.

Ahh.Do you know any other nannies who you could swap baby sitting with?

Nothing wrong with you wanting a break from your DD now and again. I'm in a similar position (young, lone parent) - I haven't had a night out for over a year and I'm not at the stage of wanting to yet (hangovers are not welcome).
I don't think it's a bad thing to have a night away from DD for either of you. It gives you a chance to relax and get away and, I actually think it'd be good for your DD to spend some time away from you too.

Plus every month or two is not a lot compared to some mothers with young children who are out every weekend and still complain they don't get out enough