To expect my five year old to get himself dressed and put his shoes on himself?

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My 5yo DS won't get himself dressed in the morning or for bed, and insists on me doing it. Nor will he put his shoes on himself. He#s perfectly capable, does it himself at his Dads, but won't at mine.
When I do try and make him, he fusses so much that it is just easier for me to do it myself.
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What are you concerned about if you do it for him? Are you worried you'll still be doing it at 12? Are your timings so tight in the morning that he needs to get himself dressed while you're doing something else? Have school commented that he doesn't get himself dressed after PE?

I'm pretty sure I was still dressing DD2 in the mornings aged 5. Mainly because it was quicker. But she's 6.5 now and I don't do it any more - she's just matured a bit, and decided to do it herself. I'd hazard at guess that most kids do the same, somewhere between 4 and 7.

Make it into a game.
Set an alarm clock.