To make my Year5 boy pay for lost school jumpers ?

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It's driving me crackers! He started with 3 in September, this morning I can't find any either at school or home. Its only about 5 degrees here, so I do feel I need to buy at least 1.WiBU to dock 50% from his pocket money. (About £7 so 2 weeks worth)?

Wow...just wow. You would dock your kids pocket money for losing their school jumpers which surely is your responsibility to make sure they have when they leave school??!! If they are clearly labelled then they should be easily found unless another child is taking them home and the parents aren't returning them which would mean it's not your sons fault.
Do they have to sweep the chimney to earn the pocket money too??!!

Not sweep the chimley, but empty the dishwasher, lay the table and clear away. They can earn more by sorting laundry, shifting logs and running his sister's bath.

How old are your dcs Zombie ?

Yanbu at all! He is old enough to know it is his responsibility.
My son went through a phase of losing jumpers. I stopped buying him them, until half term. So he ended up going in wearing hoodies on cold days.

I dont think he liked being the odd one out.
When i bought him his next one - well, it has been the longest he has kept one! And he is 9

for losing their school jumpers which surely is your responsibility to make sure they have when they leave school

It's not my responsibility to make sure they have their jumpers when they leave school. a)I don't pick them up from school, b)it's their responsibility to look after their stuff, and c)it does them no favours, nor does it encourage them to be independent to have their mothers running around after them.

It is the childs responsibility.
Fair enough at age 5...but thats about it. After that, id say its their reaponsibility.

Seeing as my dd goes to school 40 miles away from where I live & work, I bust a gut so she can go to a specialist school that's one of the top 4 in the country for her specialism & I provided a full set if uniform & equipment stcthexstsrt of the year if she can't be bothered to pick her clothes up off the changing room floor & put them in her bag then she has to pay

Children have to learn that money doesn't grow on trees. If items are just replaced willy nilly they will never learn the value of things or learn to take repdonsibilitybfir her belongings.

Dds dance bag was confiscated by the school a couple of weeks ago because instead of putting but where she should she left it blocking a fire exit. It contained all her kit. She wasn't bothered to look for it.

I suspect zombie that your children are very young?

Every day my Dd comes our without her cardigan, I have to send her back in for it. She is 5. Once she gets into year 1 I wont be reminding her.

I would maybe make him pay for half. Dont drag it out over two weeks.

To update. Ds came out with his coat and jumper. Beaming all over his face. I f@#ked it up by giving him a big sloppy kiss in front of his mate's !

DD1 has been a demon for losing stuff this term, not a single lost item last year in reception. And to those saying check before you leave the school, I have spent hours trailing round the playground, looking through lost property, inspecting her tray and asking the teacher. What else would you like me to do to find it?

Eventually all of them turned up except her lovely purple GAP hoody that disappeared one mufti day. It pisses me off no end that some kid came home with it and the parent thought, that's nice, we'll have that, rather than, that's not yours, we'll take it back tomorrow.

I felt my hackles rise when I saw this thread title, we have an ongoing wrangle with our Y5 boy over losing stuff at school at the moment! He came home at the end of last term with seven school jumpers, all of which he "couldn't find" and "weren't in lost property" etc etc. He loses homework and spelling sheets. He loses letters that are meant for us. He leaves his lunchbox at school. He doesn't TELL us he has lost something until it is too bloody late to do anything about it. And no, we are not going to follow him into school and round up his stuff for him, he is 9 not bloody 5.

The last straw was when he lost his new glasses because he "put them down somewhere" during a play rehearsal and couldn't be arsed to go back at playtime to get them. I said he would have to pay for a replacement pair. Happily after much wailing and gnashing of teeth they turned up in the bottom of his school bag, minus the case which was in his tray.

So now we are giving him a checklist every morning which details all the things he needs to bring home - PE kit, glasses and case, homework folder, reading book, lunchbox, water bottle, jumper, coat etc. When he arrives home we check things off and if anything is missing he gets a consequence. I hate it. But I am NOT going into school and running around after his stuff. If I do, he will drown when he gets to secondary school and has to remember far more stuff for more subjects, and staff will have less sympathy for disorganised children.

Am reading thread with interest. Maybe I'll find a better idea!

Whilst I think a giving of £1 to encourage, if they have all bits at the w/e, is good. In this particular case I think a 'punishment' of them paying for part of a new jumper, is more appropriate.

I said to ds1(nearly 10) , Yr5, no I'm afraid you can't have xxx, because I need to use the money to put towards a school jumper.

Was VERY effective.

Sorry not clear £7 is 50% of the cost. £3:50 is his pocket money.

Could you not just get him a one without the school logo on? Which would cost half the price, and something he could actually pay for himself without either of you feeling too robbed?

And maybe next term buy him one with a logo on. With a warning of "if this new jumper goes missing - you will be given the plain jumpers until secondary school"

My DS has list things lots of times, sometimes the teacher will allocate clothes to other kids (ie if one forgot all his sports tops, a child is asked to volunteer to give up their t-shirt or jumper, DS is first to volunteer) . It then gets home a week later, or not.

Same with shoes/trainers.

So I help DS look for things, as I feel it is not really his fault.

What?? If one hild loses some clothing - the teachers asks another child to give them theirs?

What what what

Both my children's schools require they have logo stuff. Dd who is in secondary even has to have a specified style skirt so you can't just buy cheaper generic stuff.