to want the window closed

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The woman I share an office with has had the window open since 9 o'clock this morning and it's freezing . I asked at lunch time if we could close it and she agreed with a bit of a face .

Came back from a meeting a while ago and she had bloody opened it again. WIBU to slam it closed with a big annoyed sigh?

I keep my window open all day. I love the fresh air. Even in this weather. Feels so much healthier.

But I'm not bugging anyone else. Must be so annoying if you want it shut.

She's now doing that thing of pulling out the front of her shirt and sort of flapping it backwards and forwards while giving me pointed looks. I have to keep staring at my screen and pretending I'm not noticing her.

Can you take a slanket to work tomorrow?

Sitting fanning herself? What with, a real fan or a bit of paper? Is she doing big sighs as well?:)

Can you ask to move offices? Or sit her right under the window and yourself next to the heater with an office screen thing for draughts, better for privacy too.

Or come in early and superglue it shut/ hammer some nails in. Unless its a fire escape as well.

I fucking hate fresh air.
When I were a lass it would infuriate me my Ma and her "ooo let some air in I'm smothercating"
Infuriated to the point of picturing her head being boiled.
YANU

Much sympathy OP.

I used to have a desk opposite a overweight, incredibly hairy man. He was constantly sweaty & needed 'fresh air' - via the window next to my desk

My fingers used to stop working I was so cold. Meanwhile he was quite snug in his permanent pullover (boak).

We didn't stay in touch when I left...

Next time she's got the window open you need to sit shivering and say in aloud voice ''gosh - my nails are actually turning blue!''.

I'd counter her fanning etc with loads of passive aggressive stuff. Keep looking her way and doing dramatic shivers, blowing on your hands and loads of BRRRRRing. It could turn out to be quite a fun game!

But what temperature is it, actually? Why not bring in a room thermometer tomorrow? - then you will really know who WIBU! A comfortable office temperature is maybe 18 to 24 degrees Celsius. Google told me so.

I've actually started pulling my sleeves over my hands and doing shivery movements.

YABVU

I have to have nice fresh air, especially while working. Even open just a slither is acceptable.

Put another jumper on.

24 degrees inside - that's boiling. I'd be opening every window in sight.
It's too difficult to judge. I would rather be too cold than too hot.
I love fresh air.

How is it unreasonable for the window to be open for approx 6 hours and for me to have it closed for about one and a half hours?

I like fresh air,I don't like being bloody freezing though.

Because if you're cold you can put on more clothes.

If it's hot/stuffy I find it makes me tired, unproductive

Put your gloves on.

I can't go into work looking like the michelin man. I'm wearing a cardigan over a woolen dress and opaque tights. Also I can't use my PC if I'm wearing gloves.

Sorry Usual. That was to Taking.

Yes, I might put my gloves and scarf on tomorrow if when she opens the window.

I'd counter her fanning etc with loads of passive aggressive stuff. Keep looking her way and doing dramatic shivers, blowing on your hands and loads of BRRRRRing. It could turn out to be quite a fun game!

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I think you need to talk to each other. All this miming isn't getting you anywhere

Ha ha. Someone just walked in and said 'God it's freezing in here. Is your rad not working'? She just grunted something and I said 'I know. I've been turning blue all day'.

Ah I don't know - this all really depends on how hot your office actually is.

As a freezer I feel your pain. I had the same problem in my last office job. After complaining to HR I was bought a small heating fan for under my desk. Could that be an option for you? And I would recommend fingerless gloves!

Discreetly leave leaflets about the menopause all around the place?

Which of you sits by the window?

I have my own office luckily as I like the window open. When I shared I suffered the overheated and slightly smelly air that was conventional where I worked. Because I was sharing so it was not up to me. But I was irritated that the other woman wouldn't swap desks so at least I could be by the window and have it open just a tiny bit.

But you know people do feel heat differently. Blood pressure, weight, fitness levels... She is uncomfortable with the temperature that you find comfortable. So she is not being deliberately unreasonable.