to not just want to sit in one room all day??!

[curiousgeorgie]

It's freezing. (As I'm sure you know!) I have a 3 year old who just got out of hospital with awful flu and respiratory infection, and a nearly 5 month old who is very moody at the best of times..

I want the heating on. Whacked up so it's nice in here.. Not just barely on.

DH says no, the three of you can stay in the living room and if need be put the fire on for 10 minutes to warm it up as that's much cheaper than heating.

AIBU? Seriously, my baby's hands feel like ice and I don't see why we should just sit in the living room. I need arguments for DH.. (Who is in a toasty warm office miles away.)

next time he works at home ' air' the room he uses for a good hour before he uses it and see how long he resists.

you need the heating on, especially with your sick child and a young baby, why not just have it on downstairs.
he is sitting at work with heating on, why does he think you don't need it ?

Two choices - tell him he's being selfish and put heating on. Or put heating on, deny all knowledge and if your bill is high then blame the energy company who no doubt have hiked prices recently. Actually you could do both these things.

Another person here whose Dh disapproves of heating. Luckily he now works from home so suddenly is so blue with cold he puts it on himself It is worth checking curtains, draughts cold floors and maximimizing the warmth when you have it with rugs, jumpers, hot food but it is obvious you should put the heating on.

I worked out it cost £2 maximum a day to put the gas heating on in the whole house for one day in hours you might not usually heat it. You just have weigh that up over other expenditures you might make in one day. Obviously every week that works out a bit more expensive, but for one day or two or three it is the price of going to a coffee shop.

I hope your DH cycles to work, anything lose would be a aste of money

We only heat one room, but its with a woodburner so when its warm enough it heats the whole house.

If i were here with children who were playing in different rooms i would definitely have the heating on.

I do think though that when it is cold and money is tight, lots can be done to make one room really warm and snuggly and this should be preferable to sort of heating the whole house.

turn it onto timer to switch on after he leaves and to go off before he gets in. keep it quite low to keep the chill off the air we are doing this and its better than whacking it up, getting too warm turning it down and getting cold on repeat all night. A steady 17 seems to be working along with extra cosy layers and slipper boots.

Why is it up to him? He sounds controlling

Perhaps you have to work out EXACTLY how much it would cost to have the heating on all day.

We used to have it on during the day but switch it off in the evening when they went to bed.

What hours do you have the heating on?

Put it on. I do complain tho when my DH keeps whacking ours on constantly...he's too easy in putting it on and then walking about barefoot in a t shirt!

I bet he's nice and warm at work

I would think its much better to have the heating on low and ticking over than letting the property get really cold and have to put the heating on at a higher setting for longer, any way in the interest of your children I would say to you dh that as there mother you are pulling rank and putting the heating on which is in the best interest of there health so tough!

unless you're broke, put the heating on! especially with a sick child. I assume you're talking about a reasonable temperature (18-22) rather than balmy 25C?!

Can I suggest you come up with a list of jobs for your DH to do that will help save energy bills? e.g. topping up loft insulation, draught proofing doors and windows, fitting thermostatic controls on radiators etc.

Not even a discussion. Put it on and don't 'ask' again. If he complains look at him like he 's being insane (which he is)