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WIBU to ask for car back

13 replies

poshfrock · 19/11/2013 12:59

So background is BIL and SIl both lovely ( DH's sis and husband) but a bit rubbish with money.

They bought a house 6 years ago which they are struggling to pay for and which needs loads of work doing ( new windows, repointing, re-wiring, new kitchen, new bathroom, leaky roof- didn't get a full survey to save money).

About 4 years ago BIL got a new job ( he changes jobs about every 2/3 years) but then realised that commute was going to be really difficult without a second car due to SIL's work being in opposite direction plus timing of school pick-ups etc. SIL was desperately looking for car for about £1k on internet although they were struggling to find the cash.

We had 2 cars and at the time we were considering changing one as I too had a new job with a much longer commute and thought a diesel car would be more suitable. At the time we still had about 4 months left to pay on DH's car ( about £800) and 6 months to pay on mine ( about £1300). Anyway, to help them out we offered to give them my car, buy a new car for me and by deferring the start of the loan on my car we would only have to pay the 3 lots of loan payments for about 2 months. So we did. We drove my car to theirs ( 3 hours away) at our expense. They couldn't afford to insure it so had to ask BIL's MIL (who is wealthy) to lend them money for insurance.

Anyway, scroll forward 2 years and we go to visit them and notice that our old car is sitting on drive with tax out of date by about 6 months. I mention to SIL in case she has overlooked and she says they haven't bothered because BIL has new job closer to home and now doesn't need second car. SIL says they will tax/ insure/ MOT when they have some spare cash. OK.

Scroll forward another 2 years. BIL mother dies. Leaves them half of house ( enough to clear their mortgage and then some) and her virtually brand new car. Only had 6 months when she died. BIL now using it for work ( another new job). Our car still sitting on their drive.

So now my DH's car is on its last legs. We have moved house so now my commute is really short but DH's is very long so it makes sense for him to have my diesel car but his is really too big for me ( 7 seater) and I have only a short commute. My old petrol car would be ideal to tide us over until my car ( the one we bought early so we could give them my old car) is paid for (2 years) and we can buy me a new one.

So the upshot is WIBU to ask if we can have our old car back ? It's just sitting on their drive not doing anything. Or do I just have to accept that we gave it to them and it's now theirs ?

OP posts:
BiscuitsAreMyDownfall · 19/11/2013 13:17

Where's the harm in asking. They can only say no. Or will they get all huffy about it?

mitchsta · 19/11/2013 13:56

YANBU to ask them if you can have it back. They aren't using it and you could do with it. They might be grateful for you taking it off their drive.

shoofly · 19/11/2013 14:00

I would ask. I don't see the harm.

ooerrmissus · 19/11/2013 14:03

I'd ask. But if it hasn't been driven in 4 years it won't be going anywhere!

FeisMom · 19/11/2013 14:05

What ooerrmissus said

RevengeWiggle · 19/11/2013 14:09

No harm in asking, they'd probably be pleased to have it off their drive

holidayseeker · 19/11/2013 14:10

You helped them out when they needed it so yanbu to ask for it back when it's not being used.

Objection · 19/11/2013 15:24

Seems fair enough - you gave it to them when they needed it so I don't see why they should have a problem returning the favour as they clearly no longer need it

Sunnymeg · 19/11/2013 17:24

Who is the registered keeper of the vehicle? Is it still you or did you get their details put on the V5? If you are the registered keeper I would just say that you are taking it back as they aren't using it.

Joysmum · 19/11/2013 17:28

I'd ask to borrow it but I would ask to have it back to own. Will it need much work doing having had so much time sat on a driveway doing nothing over the years. Is it worth using?

TwoShakesOfaWhiskersTail · 19/11/2013 18:36

Wh? wouldn't you ask? They're not using it, can't see the problem.

Helpyourself · 19/11/2013 18:38

Definitely no problem is asking. Hope you get it back.

YoureBeingASillyBilly · 19/11/2013 18:49

Its your car you dont need to ask for it. You just tell them you are taking it back now. No explanation needed and they cant refuse to give it back unless you have transferred it into their names. Which would have been very silly thing to do if you wanted it back at a later date.

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