to be wary of believing dd when she tell schools office she's ill

[WellThatsLife]

Now at high school, during primary did have problems with saying she was ill, getting sent home and staging a miraculous recovery. She does have some problems, asthma and apergers, and there has been some problems with minor bullying(school is dealing with).
She has missed quite a few days this term(from reading some of the stories am surprised I have not had a phone call from attendance officer)but most of them she has been genuinely ill. She has had 4 days in hospital with her asthma, another time a pe teacher told her to carry on although she said she felt wheezy and tight-ended up at drs on nebulizer,then she had cold resulting in severe earache, no onfection but drs comment was'ugh that's digusting'when he looked in her ear', then then 10 days ago got sent with a stomach upset(as she only ate about 4 lots of toast in 2 days think it was genuine). Because of the amount of time she had off I'm wary of let her stay off but she is often complaining of things that are hard to confirm.

Had another phone call from office just now to say she is there complaining of stomach ache and back ache so i said to see how she is feeling at lunchtime, if she is still saying she is feeling ill i will go down and see what the score is but I am concerned that she is playing up to get off school.

I would be down there straight away if i was seriously concerned, asthma attack, running a temperature, or had thrown up in front of a teacher etc, it's just when it's these had to prove symptoms combined with the history at primary school

I have three with Aspergers. It's quite common for them to say they have stomach ache, earache whatever when something else is wrong but they haven't got the words or the right way to say it. She may be being bullied and it may be more than minor, she may have stomach ache because it's that time of the month (often the stomach ache preceeds the actual period for a few months). Try to find out if it's something else that is bothering her and if this is her way of telling you.

Plan is for tonight is to sit down with her and try to find out if there is something bothering her. She is normally fairly good at letting me know if there is any bullying going on and I phone her keyworker at the school straight away.