To think I shouldn't have to be a clothing detective?

[ooerrmissus]

So last week DS1 came home after PE very upset because he was wearing someone else's shirt. He said he couldn't find his shirt after PE so he put on the only one that was left.
This shirt wasn't named but DS1's is. It is clearly named with a sew-on label in the collar, you can't miss it.
So I asked DS1 who he thought this mystery shirt might belong to, sent a few texts and yes it belongs to one of his classmates. The other mum and I agree to swap the shirts back today.
I get it back after school today- and the other mum has literally just stuffed it in a carrier bag, whereas I have washed and ironed her DS's shirt.
So my question is, AIBU to feel pissed off that she didn't bother to contact me when she saw her DS had the wrong shirt? It would have been much easier for her since I actually bothered to label all my kid's uniform. And also, am I asking too much that if your son does come home in someone else's clothes, you wash them before sending them back?

I'm impressed you got the shirt back, we have lost so many shirts, jumpers and shoes even when they are named! Costs a fortune to replace and drives me crazy!

Had she noticed before you contacted her? I don't check the labels of my DC's clothes when I wash them. I'd have noticed a problem only if the label was obvious.

I always wash on the rare times we've received the wrong stuff.

I also get the other side. As a teacher I regularly get "Can you search for .....?"
"Has it got their name in?"
"No."
"Riiiiiiight"

as a TA parents asking me to search for 'lost' uniform items make me want to scream.

we ask 33 4 year olds to dress the bloody same and then wonder why there's chaos.

you sound sensible op, lead the fight to abolish uniform at your school!! go on.

Oh goodness, we just worked on the basis of there being a collective pool of clothing and stopped bothering. It was all uniform stuff from the same supplier so swings and roundabouts.

If any one had phoned up to say they had DS shirt, did I have darling Tarquin's I'd have swapped but no one ever did. I suppose partly because it didn't remotely follow that becauseTarquin had DS ' belongings DS would have any thing belonging to Tarquin and it could have gone on ad nauseam.

Shoes and blazers were usually located but socks, shirts, jumpers, scarves, t shirts and sweat shirts just went in to the revolving heap.

Well that's certainly one way of doing it! But ds1 can't manage his top button so I have taken off the button and sewn in Velcro instead. So it would have been really annoying if it had gone walkies. Of course it begs the question how the other boy didn't notice he was putting the wrong shirt on, but that's by the bypass.

Ihatespiders- my favourite conversation along those lines went like this:
Dad: Little Johnny's lost his sweatshirt
Me: does it have his name in it?
Dad: no, but I can smell which one's his