Of course I am being unreasonable

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I'm got a tiny little bit of the pfb hump because ds hasn't been invited to a party tonight.

Ridiculous, yes I know. He's a bit miffed, I've just said never mind, sometimes people can only have a few friends so everyone can't go. There'll be plenty more parties.

He's 5, and I think this might be the first one he hasn't had an invite to. He's also a boy who wants to be best friends with everyone, likes every bloody child he meets, so doesn't quite get choosing.

Would anyone else care to admit being this pathetic, or give me a friendly kick up the bum?

YABU and deserve a kick up the bum. You'll have to deal with far worse than this in years to come

But I know it does smart to see them hurt so I won't be too stern. Have some instead

Who has a party on a Monday night?

YANBU to be miffed at him being left out btw.

In my defence I am cringing at my own preciousness and pettiness, and would only confess something like this on MN.

What will I be like when he first gets dumped?

Aww it's tough but try to look at it this way

If this is the first one he hasn't been invited to, it's best it happens now than a couple of years down the line.

It's always going to happen, so sometimes it's best to learn early that you can't go to everyone's party.

People often advise on threads like this that you 'Do something special with him' to make up for it. But I would advise against that completely or where would it end?

My daughter rarely got invite either in her early years because invites were given out based on the sins and daughters of the mums friends and I was never one to socialise during the day and do coffee mornings etc

It was only as she got older and the kids were allowed to insist in having their friends instead of who their parents thought should be invited.

If it is a party at indoor soft play then you should both count your lucky stars. He has escaped the norovirus at the very least.

I think it is only natural that you want to protect your child's feelings but think about it as a teachable moment and try not to stress over it too much. There will be other parties and other invitations.

Thanks, no I haven't made a fuss to him, he's just happily doing his homework.

Agree soft play on a Monday night making small talk over horrible coffee wouldn't be much fun for me.

Just felt sorry for him, as I asked if he'd had a good day, and he said he did, but that he didn't because he isn't going to 'm's party, and 'm' must have forgotten his invitation. I just explained and said plenty more parties.

I just never expected to feel miffed over such a thing!

I'm soooooo glad it's not just me. I get so upset when DD doesn't get invited to a party, even though she's not bothered - she's far more sanguine and grown up about it than me!!! I know I'm being totally pathetic and stupid, in fact I'd even go so far as to say that I'm projecting my own insecurities on her. I'm very insecure and hate to be left out as I feel that is a reflection on me and my 'likeableness'. I wish I could get a grip of myself in this area, thankfully I do manage not to show it bothers me, other than on here of course. Leaves to have a word with herself.......