to send an apologetic letter after several years

[wontletmesignin]

I am deeply sorry about a situation from years ago. When i was too young and stupid to realise the hurt i was causing by my selfish actions.

Am i being selfish again, by saying sorry after so long?
I just swept it under the carpet at the time, and carried on as normal. Which kills me now to think of how bad that actually is.

I hate it when my dm does that! Yet i have done the same thing.

Wibu to send the letter would it come across as though i was doing it to ease my guilt? Or would it come across how i want it to - that i truly am deeply sorry!?

I did this after several years.

My actions weren't totally my fault really, I was in a very bad situation and what I did to this person was nasty, but of all the options I had, that was of the least damaging overall.

They took it well, and I think they deserved an apology and am glad I did it.Good luck!

The word sorry does not have an expiry date.

I had a guy ask to meet up and 'explain and apologise' for his past actions (shitty behavior in a relationship) all as part of this psychoanalytical 'process' he was embarking on. It sucked. It involved him off-loading a bunch of stuff that I didn't really need to hear as I had gotten over it ages ago, all so he could wipe his own slate clean and move on with a lightened conscious. It was pretty self centered and self indulgent if you ask me.

We all make mistakes as part of growing up and turning into decent humans. It usually involves a lot of looking in the mirror and examining the warts and scars and accepting them, and making sure not to repeat those mistakes again.

Writing a letter is good for you to get it out and clarify in your own head, but maybe don't send it, especially if it will dredge up crap for the other person. If you do have to say anything, say it their faces, acknowledge you were a dick but don't go into details or excuses or whatever.