My son is 8 today. He wanted a party and we said he could have a party or the really expensive present he wanted but not both. He opted for the present and then once the time came close and the present was bought he kept pestering us for a party again. After much nagging we agreed that he could have 2 friends over to play and he chose 2.
Now the thing is he attends a very small school and he is one of only 4 or 5 boys in his year but there are always two year groups per classroom. One year he shares a classroom with the year above and the next with the year below. As a consequence of this he is friendly with boys in his own year and those from the years above and below.
He chose 2 friends and we invited them. Then yesterday I got a text from another mum stating that her son says he is 'the only one' not invited to the 'party'. I explained the situation, that it was not a party just 2 friends coming over to play on the X box but she says that her son was the only one not invited. The thing is, on reflection, the 2 boys are in my son's actual year group which means that the boy in question who was 'left out' is the only one from that school year not to come. There was absolutely no slight intended but on reflection were we being thoughtless or should we feel free to do what we feel works best for us?