To tell dh he over reacted?

[CeliaFate]

We were chatting over food this evening and got talking about History lessons, which led on to WWII.
Dh started to explain something, dd made a funny noise and ignored him. Dh shouted "SHUT UP!"
I said, "That was a bit of an over reaction, but dd you were rude. Apologise." She did, but dh was really pissed off, refused to continue the conversation (like a big child) and ranted on about how "Oh it's only me talking so it's ok to ignore me."
He had a valid point that she shouldn't have interrupted, she's 13 btw, but ffs, am I supposed to listen to him yell like that and say nothing?
AIBU?

personally I think who anybody who says 'shut up' is nasty. There are many ways to ask someone to be quiet and that is not an acceptable one

That was my point. If he'd said "Dd, I was talking, don't be so rude," I would have whole heartedly agreed with him.

Is you DD really such a delicate flower that one swift "shut up" will scar her for life?
She was rude - very rude.

People do get touchy from time to time - give your DH a break.

I agree she was very rude, but he's now gone off in a strop and is refusing to discuss it. His response is disproportionate and doesn't teach the dc how to handle conflict. And it's my fault because I didn't back him up.

I think the shut up was justified given how rude your DD was but I wouldn't be impressed by the following huffiness from DH.

Completely agree with you, OP.

He definitely overreacted. His choice of words and tone was unnecessary.

Maybe he's has a crappy day/week and has a few things on his mind? Have a chat with him later when the DC are in bed and ask him if everything is ok? Mention you found his outburst earlier completely out of character for him.

Good luck.

I think perhaps he is more upset that you chose to tell him he was inappropriate in front of a stroppy 13 year old. I had 6 13 year olds at one time or another. We always agreed to keep our criticism of each others parenting private and it worked better.

I agree annielouisa I probably should have kept quiet in front of the dc, it just slipped out as an instant reaction.