Hi everyone,
Well as the title suggests, I have been dreading this visit from sil all week. So much so that I haven't slept properly for most of it.
To give some background, this woman (who really could be called a child as she behaves like one), has been a consistent pain in the bum for most of the 9 years me and my partner have been together. She creates havoc when she doesn't get her own way, is spoiled and always has to be the centre of attention. She lives alone and seems to do nothing but criticise others. The problem is my partner, although he can see some of this, is completely manipulated by her.
Over the years she has been trusted to look after my children, but a catalogue if inappropriate events, such as showing my 12 year old daughter how to get on dating sites and my son ending up with a burnt hand after she used a table lamp to look for a missing toy under a cupboard (he burnt his hand on the bare bulb), have resulted in me refusing to let her have my children in her sole care. This has made me public enemy number one and for the past three or four years,she has talked behind my back, turned members of their family against me and generally made my life miserable.
She is a particularly clever person though and despite slagging me off with my partners ex on facebook, has managed to somehow pull the wool over my partners eyes and because I have tried to explain how all this makes me feel to him, and I've gotten angry, he thinks its me who has the problem!
This is a person who is often in conflict with others and whom not many people take to when they first meet, due to her haughty and dominating demeanour.
Anyway she is coming round later and I'm dreading it - she makes me feel awkward and upset in my own home and I just don't know how to deal with it today?
Do I go off to tidy a bedroom or do the ironing and stay out of her way? Or try my hardest (again), to be nice to her?
I know she will find a way to put me down, or try to cause upset between me and my partner by asking if she can take my kids out, knowing I will say no. Either way, whatever happens she always manages to make me look like the bitch and I just don't know how she does it. I just feel lie running away!