To be asleep in the hallway

[HMSDeptford]

We have a family member (BIL) staying who has got very very drunk. He's already fallen over, half asleep, into my son's (8 months) bedroom door, waking him (thankfully only briefly) and walked into hallway table, causing quite a crash. I am unable to get back to sleep now and am probably being silly but I am worried for my son having someone so out of control in the house. Currently sleeping outside son's bedroom to guard him (!) but it's not that comfortable! We don't have a monitor as it's a tiny flat. Am I safe going back to bed? PND so inclined to overreact, so please be kind! Husband sound asleep, very heavy sleeper. BIL is gentle kind guy and this is quite out of character.

X-posts, it's not as easy as saying pull yourself together/just forget it/get over it/get a grip.

Have to disagree with you again though, these weren't irrational thoughts, they were very, very rational.

I actually said she was succumbing to fears that were not functional. I did not say pull yourself together or get a grip. Although I think you and sparkly are just trying to ignite her fears. Which is particularly unkind.

Nonsense.

What is nonsense sparkly?

Trying to reassure/support someone in the dead of night is not the same as whipping them up into a fury.

Where have I been unkind to the OP?

Sparkly's right, nonsense.

Pretty much everything you've posted but your last post in particular. What else could I possibly be referring to?

I could not have been clearer in all my posts. Your last one was particularly ridiculous though and it's pretty self explanatory why. Not sure what exactly I need to explain to you.

Because I implied you were being disingenuous?

Which is nonsense.

I disagree.

I am more than happy to let you have the last word, it's all yours .

Go on then

How ridiculous, I would have done the same and my d is 6! I think protecting your child from a drunken person is completely rational and nothing to do with pnd...unless I have had it for 6 years? Obviously, in my case I would have put dd in bed with me.
I have heard of drunk people pissing in cots, I think the Op is doing a good thing.

My h used to get out of control drunk a lot and I used to sleep on the floor in my dc room to make sue he did not crash about in their room or piss on them. When my dd1 was tiny I would move her in the Moses basket to another room.
An out of control person is unpredictable and very scary and I completely understand.

I left him.

Well done lady I am sure all your lives are the better for it. :)

My story too ladypan.

Dd co-slept and her cot was by our bed. In the end i refused to allow him to sleep in there. Big clumsy drunks and tiny babies don't mix. I threw him out in the end and we split up. Till this day he tells anyone who will listen that the marriage failed because I wouldn't let him sleep in the same room as us, nothing at all him being pissed every night around a small baby is ever mentioned .

sparkly it was all my fault too. I am still accused of making it all up and leaving him for no good reason

So, you see Op? Its not the pnd...its you being a good mother!

DO11Y: Some drunken men piss in wardrobes, on bedroom floors, in drawers and on babies in cots.
It is a fact. Sad but true.

The OP is not over reacting.
You are being mean.

Take the baby into her bed then? Of course it is an overreaction to lie on the floor outside the bedroom door.

You obviously missed the bit where she said that would wake the baby up?

And that is the absolute end of the world? Even when there are baby-pissers about? Oh.

DO11Y - I don't think that the OP's fears were not 'not functional' at all (apologies for the kack handed phrasing!) Sounds entirely possibly that a pissed 20 yr old male who is stumbling around in an unknown flat might decide to just sleep in the nearest comfy space…..small baby or no. I'm not suffering from PND but I would definitely be doing something to stop BIL too (or keeping a damn good eye on him.

and possibly shaving off an eye brow!