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AIBU?

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...about DH being out?

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superlambanana · 16/11/2013 12:30

I am well prepared to be told it's me, as I'm genuinely not sure!

I have had awful, horrible morning sickness for two weeks now (2 months pg) that has involved me being off work for all but two days. In that time DH has been in for four or five evenings and two weekend days / evenings. Obviously I'm not begrudging him being at work so that doesn't count! He has cooked for me and helped me when he has been here (with a bit of repeated asking) and is generally pretty good but I feel like I've hardly seen him. He has been out doing his hobby in the evenings, which is something I used to do but haven't been able to for a few weeks as I've been too tired and / or sick.

He went to the ILs' this morning for a walk, which is fine as the dog needs to go anyway and I'm not sure I would be up to it. I asked him to be as quick as he could because I'm so bored on my own and have trouble doing stuff for myself as it makes me sick every time I move. Instead of just coming straight back there he has stopped for a coffee and a chat, which knowing MIL will have lasted for ages. He sees them every day and has done this a few times in the last couple of weeks.

Normally of course I wouldn't begrudge him having a coffee and a chat, as that would be entirely unreasonable, but when I'm really ill, bored out of my skull, can't do much for myself and have asked him to not be long (he could have walked the dog from here and been back in half an hour, instead he's been gone two and a half hours so far) AIBU to be a bit miffed?

I accept that I am ill, hormonal and cranky, so may be BU, but I just don't know!

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superlambanana · 16/11/2013 12:30

Sorry that was so long - can't tell on my phone until it's posted! Sad

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Joysmum · 16/11/2013 12:36

You're only being unreasonable if he doesn't know you want to spend time with him. If he doesn't know that then you are being unreasonable.

For my part, I'm not good when I'm ill, even without the hormones, and my family are best to keep out of my way. I'd need to ask for company if I wanted it.

When hubby isn't well he does the dying swan, woe is me act and likes to be fussed over so that's what I do. If he wanted space he'd need to say.

Hope you are feeling better soon. I suffered horribly with morning sickness so I really sympathise x

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