Who's being unreasonable?

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Friends having a party from home with some company - where they bring products and u can buy etc

Party starts at 7, only 3/4 people going.

Friend mentioned in the week that she was doing buffet so don't eat before coming - that's ok makes it easier for me

Just get a text from friend saying no buffet eat before you come. She's knows I've taken a temp job today so am working until 6:30 & she's about 20mins from where I'll be.
I reply saying that's fine but I'll either grab food on my way & eat at yours or order something once I'm at yours.
Friend replies saying no you can't do that you need to eat before you come.
I reply saying well I won't make it until about 8 then as I'll have to go home and eat
Friend gets arsy saying it starts at 7 and it's not turn up when you want
I said well I won't come then as I'm not working and then having nothing to eat.

Who's being unreasonable?

The least they can do while trying to sell you overpriced tat is provide some food. She's no friend.

Why do you feel guilty? she is monetizing friendship, why should you buy her good opinion? These things always damage friendships, especially if you've actually bought something and its faulty and want a refund.
The company's that run them are relying on the friendship factor to make easy sales.
Try texting her with the message that you are financially broke at the mo and were only going along to support her as she'd hardly any customers, so it shouldn't make much difference in the long run if she cancels or not
as you couldn't have bought anything.

She'd never make it on The Apprentice with that sales technique! :o

My heart sinks when I get invited to those things so justfeel rrelief you are out of it.

She is being extremely unreasonable. Imagine inviting people around and telling them not to eat before coming, then changing your mind about giving them food at the last minute and then refusing to allow them to eat in your home! I'd be mortified if someone coming around to my house had to bring their own food! Disgraceful, inhospitable way to treat friends - that's even before trying to flog them overpriced tat!

Tbh i would think that it is rude to order food only for you and eat it there in front of the others.
But it should be fine if you ate quickly a sandwitch in her kitchen.

To dont srem keen to go and perhaps the food is an excuse but i dont blame you as i dont like these parties either, who likes being ripped off?

Just out of curiosity, why are the options grab something on the way to hers and eat it there, order something when you get there, or go home and eat. Why can you not eat at the take away place you would be grabbing something from?

Because she's been ordered to turn up at 7.

opti Probably because she finishes work @ 6.30pm. Has to park up, go to a take-a-way, drive 20 min and be at friends house for 7pm. Arriving late is not an option according to her Friend.

I had like half hour to get from where I am to hers, and it's a 20min drive. If I stopped to eat then id be late which again isn't allowed

She's cancelled as everyone dropped out when she said eat at home

She had to cancel? What a surprise. Hope she learned something.

Don't waste your time worrying about it. She sounds very immature and childish. And a bad hostess-fine if she doesn't want to supply food but I really don't get why you can't bring something of your own to eat at her house. Bizarre.

Wow, Alan Sugar must be shitting himself.

I now never go to those parties where you are expected to buy stuff that you don't want or need, just so that the 'friend' (who is hosting) will get a massive discount on what she wants!! The hostess' discount depends on how much everyone else spends, so there is always pressure to buy! Plus from what you've said she sounds horribly controlling - not acting like a friend!!!

I don't get it, she wants you to eat before you come, but then wouldn't you be full and not interested in buying her food. I can't even think about more food if I've eaten a good tea. Surely a better sales tactic would be to say "No need to have your tea, I'll provide the nibbles" then you arrive hungry, get to sample her food and hopefully buy loads of it. I wonder why she changed the original plan.

I bet this never happens at Ann Summers parties.

Doesn't sound much like a friend to me!

It wasn't a food party some cosmetic one

Oh well doesn't matter